My marriage works fine because we are a partnership. We work together no "leads" and no one has to "follow" and I could never be in a relationship that was any other way, but to each their own I guess. My husband is a little over a year younger.

So whats the question? I dont get it. What do you mean how does it work?
Age and time aren't the only factors in building/acquiring leadership skills. My husband is two years younger and is a better leader than most of the "leaders" I deal with on a daily basis. Also, some people don't like or practice "traditional roles". Nobody wears the pants in our relationship..we wear one leg each. We make all decisions together and we are a team and respect EACH OTHER'S opinions. It's not a one way street. I'm as good of a leader as he is...so we both lead, each at different times and different aspects.

Oh, and there's no "submitting" unless I feel like letting him take control in the bedroom, lol.

well, my husband is two years older than me. I think that's right around the same age... and we grew up together. We've been friends since we were 14 and 16. Neither of us submit. We are equal. And I wouldn't accept anything else. We lead our family together; we just have different roles in the leadership.

We just work. We've been happily married for eleven years, three children, four duty stations etc. etc. and I don't know. Maybe because I was the baby of my family and he was second in a family of five shrug I don't know, never gave it any thought.

We have "traditional" rolls too, so really I think it is personality. Once you learn this isn't a game, there is no "winning" unless you both know the rules. shrug

My answer to your question is I don't submit. We are partners. Equals. But I don't think that has anything to do with age. Equitable power in a marriage is a state of mind, not a birthdate. I am glad your marriage works for you but for me, that would be a bit like being married to my father. Yuck.

Well, interesting question I guess. My husband and I are the same age. The distinction lies in your interpretation of marriage versus mine perhaps. I see it as a partnership. Sometimes he does what I ask, sometimes I do what he asks. Sometimes he is the expert, sometimes I am. Neither of us are "in charge." I could not or would not be in a relationship with someone that expected me to "submit" to them. Period. In fact, my opinion about that is that it is franky, patriarchal bullshit. I work and make money, I am an adult, I am going to make the decisions about my own life. The things I do for my husband are because I love him and it's the same way for him. I don't expect anyone to take care of me, or want anyone else to for that matter. If it works for you, fine. Just not a way of life I would choose.

It just does. I am so totally NOT like you. I prefer to share the roles in our house. My husband and I make decisions together about things. He does not "rule the roost" or whatever, we both run our household together. My husband sees me as his equal and would think I had lost my mind if I were to "submit" to him. He LOVES that I have a mind of my own and that I refuse to just be the "Yes Dear" type.

Our relationship is no better or worse than anyone else's. It is just what works for us.

PS, he is all of 2 weeks older than I am.

OP here. Thanks for your input, everyone. It's definitely cool to hear about the various dynamics that everyone has, and how well they work out for you all. Thanks for replying. :)

I am 4 years older than my husband and it works just fine. For us its a partnership, but its also about respect. I respect him and his opinions.

Compromise. I wouldnt call it "submitting"... and if you put it that way I guess we "submit" and respect what the other asks. He likes to take control sometimes but at the same time respects that I have always been the "do my own thing" type of gal. He's 2 years older. And both of us, even during the deployment he is on now, ask each others oppinion before we do ANYTHING. Sometimes we have our little disagreements but nothing so bad that it wouldnt work. I couldnt do with him in control of everything. I didn't get married to have a father or a master. I got married so that I would have a companion.

Just because he is older, doesn't mean he has more life experience than you do. He could have been sheltered all his life and you could have been taking care of yourself since you were a kid.
There are a million scenarios why age will probably never be a factor when it comes to marriage in this day and time.
I'm sure there are some women that have husbands that are quite older than they are and their husbands act so childish they forget.
Another thing I want to mention is just because someone is younger does not mean they don't deserve or warrant respect from someone older. There are several really good young men out there that take great care of their families.

For us the submissive and dominant roles are defined by our personalities. We just happen to follow traditional gender roles because it fits us really well, not because we feel like we must. We both love and respect each other, so being close in age is not a problem.

There is no "leading" or "submitting" in this house. There is no "master" and there is no "slave/dog".

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It's not that hard. my husband is 6 months older then me. We also sort of grew up together as well, dated in high school and married shortly after. While some of our relationship is traditional, other parts aren't. He works outside the home, I take care of the kids. I control the finances, do the bills, keep things in order, while he helps out around the house. As everyone else said, it's a partnership. Your relationship works for you, but it's not a crazy idea to think it might work another way. You fall in love with who you fall in love with.

I dont really understand what you mean "How does it work"? My Husband and I are 18 days apart, him being the oldest. I didnt know that we were suppose to struggle to make it work? It works because we are in love. Not because of our age.

My husband's nearly 11 years older than I am and while I do kind of do the traditional role thing (that's the way I raised), he lets me 'wear the pants' an awful lot. He treats me with respect that he gives me because I'm me and never acts like I don't deserve it because I'm too young. I think it's more personality than age, but I will say that after being with him for so long, I can't imagine having to make it work with a guy my own age. My friends all married guys their own ages and it seems that they are forever having problems and dealing with things my DH has long left behind. I don't think it's ALL age/maturity, but I certainly don't know many (if any) guys my age that treat their wives/girlfriends the way DH treats me.

While my husband is 6 months younger then me. He is the head of our household. And I do submit to him but overall we are partners and discuss everything together. Nothing is ever discussed without us both talking about it and coming to an agreement.
I think the thing people get so worked over with the word submit is that they look at it as degrating rather then what the tue meaning of submitting means(not the dic. definition either). And it truely gets twisted into what we want it to mean and vice versa what some men think it means.
But anyways
It works cause my husband knows the true meaning of being head of the household. It doesn't have to go off of life experiances, sure it helps but its personality and just who they are and raised.

How much older is your husband? I find it hard to believe he's so much more "experienced" unless you're, like, 23, and he's 48 (in which case, do you sweat about turning 30, and not being his obedient fresh young thing anymore?) I've dated guys WAY older than me (like, 34 years), and the lead/follow thing never came up. DH is four years older, and I don't think twice about being unattractively "equal" to him. Huh.

Wow! Look at all these responses! Thanks, everybody. Some of you mentioned personality coming into the equation, and that is an excellent point. I totally agree with you. I'd even say upbringing has something to do with it. For me personally, my husband had to grow up really quick. He lost his parents at a young age, so he's had to take care of himself for a really long time... when he started having to care for himself, and learn the ways of the world, I was in Elementary School still, so in MY case, he does have a ton of valuable life experience that I don't have. I'm a small town girl, and my default setting, even years later, when something goes wrong is, "call daddy, he'll fix it!" It works great for me to have a husband who I can trust to fix life's little mishaps, whatever form they may take. He amazes me with how resourceful he is. He definitely has the personality to lead, too. It wouldn't work if he didn't.

For those who found the wording of "how does it work?" strange, I do apologize. I was merely meaning, "what do you like about the way things are for you with the dynamic you have?" Does that make it a little clearer?

I also really agree with the person who said that a lot of people may not understand the meaning of submission. When I use that word, I'm not talking about a master/slave kind of scenario. It's definitely nothing like that. A little patriarchal, maybe. I like it that way, though. And also, no we do not make decisions without consulting one another, but when it comes down to it, I do defer to him because 99.9% of the time, he has more experience with whatever it is than I do, so it's legitimate that he takes the lead in those matters.

So many good points raised here... what an interesting discussion! :)

Age is a number..

Love conquers all.

My husband is a year younger than I, but honestly, its hard to tell. We are equal partners in our marriage, but he is still the father and husband figure he needs to be. He stands up for our family, supports us, and makes sure that we are all provided for. He has always put our son and myself before him. i try to even it out by being the best wife and mother that I can be. I love having a husband who can stand up and be the man of the family, even if he is younger than me. Its never mattered to me in our realationship.

I love how candid you were in your post! Excellent view point. Now as for me...

My husband is five years younger than me. I do believe int he traditional man leads the family role. To me, my husband is VERY wise. VERY smart. VERY everything. I have no problem following his guidance. He is wise beyond my years.

I think the OP meant "submitting" in the more traditional.. maybe even Biblical.. way. Not in a slave/master way.

I am about a year and a half older than my husband, and I guess you could say we subscribe to the more "traditional" marriage roles too. That doesn't mean I'm weak, or that I let him walk all over me, because those things are far from the truth. Age really doesn't matter if you are in a mature and loving relationship--and if you have good open lines of communication. My husband and I discuss all major purchases and events--and even things that are more inconsequential, like the day-to-day details of running a household. I don't NEED his approval, and he doesn't NEED mine, but that doesn't mean that we just do what we want without regard to each other's feelings and our marriage. In some ways I have more "life experience" than he does, but in other ways he has more than I do. It's important to remember that being younger doesn't necessarily mean being less mature. My husband is more mature and family-oriented than other men I know twice his age.
Simply put, it works becasue we work, our relationship works, and we're really equals in all ways that matter.

My husband is 6 years younger than I am. We have very traditional roles in our family as well. It works just fine for us. I think we are happier than most couples we know, because we are more committed to our vows than most couples these days.

Maybe my husband is wise beyond his years, or it could be that I have allowed him some growing room because of his age. I think a successful marriage needs that trait regardless of the age of the husband and wife. Even though the husband is the leader of the family, they are all going to make mistakes or go through periods of growth from time to time. A good wife will allow him that and love him as he tries his best to lead his family. Age really isn't a factor.

And to the ladies that get their panties in a wad every time the word submit comes up, please go get a hold of a Bible, would you? It's a choice a loving wife with a Godly husband happily makes. :) That doesn't make us stupid or the "yes dear type". That just means we can trust our husbands to do the things that husbands are made to do while we do the things that wives were made to do.

Well my husband is older however we submit to each other, like the Bible tells us too. So even if he was younger, it wouldn't be an issue :)

I am the leader of my life. I make the decisions. I would never let a man run my life. I might ask for "input", but I choose whether to take it or not. My DH also knows all this and if he can't accept it now he should have never married me. It's MY life. Just because I got married doesn't mean it belongs to someone else.

We have a very traditional marriage as far as roles. Yet, he is younger than me. Before we met and were married, I had dated men older than myself....and honestly that didn't work because I didn't have that sense of security like I feel with my husband.

I think it's a personality thing. He's a very strong willed, traditional person. And IMO, it makes me feel like he is able to take care of me like a husband should.

My Huband is two years younger than me and we work great. There is no traditional roles. We work as a partnership. If I cook, he does the dishes. I do laundry, he takes out the trash. I don't understand what you mean "how does it work?" Age is nothing when two people love each other and respect each other. Like a previous poster said....there is no submissive going on unless it is in the bedroom and even then we take turns.

We're partners here. I definitely don't need someone telling me what to do, how to do it, how to fix anything, etc. I'm a grown up and make my own decisions with his input. We lead this family together as equal partners. I can't imagine it any other way.

My hubby and I are a year apart. We don't have a "submissive" role in our relationship. It's BOTH of us. But I respect the fact that he's the one working to pay our bills and the payment on the car that he bought FOR ME because it was my dream car. Therefore, if he wants to spend 80 damn dollars on a stupid fishing pole that he got to use ONCE before he started premob training, fine! Lol. He works for the money, I make sure the bills are paid. Everything else is equal.

My partner is eight and a half years older but we're still equal. We have the same type of thinking and both grew up fast. Of course his job basically rules our lives but he doesn't rule me. We were both brought up to utelise traditional roles but neither of us do. Plus, we're both stubborn as mules so neither of us would submit lol!

We respect each other an equal amount and wouldn't have it any other way. He always tells me when I back down from a point I'm trying to make that he fell in love with me for my ablilty to stick to my guns and to not let other people influence me.

It's just how it works with us.

my husband is ALMOST 2 years older than me, BUT Iv had more experience than him in the long run, we met when I was a month from turning 22 and he was 4 months from turning 24.
I had lived on my own since I was 18 years old, I had had live in relationships, I even had a 2 and half year old.
My husband didnt join the Navy till he was 21, and held 2 jobs before then and went to college but had only had his own place for about 6 months at like 19 or 20, never had a live in relationship before he met me.
I even had a bit more experience in the sexual department lol so trust me AGE doesnt matter when it comes to experience.
For me and my husband, hed rather be with a women with equal or more experience than someone with less, because maturity level that was his opinion, even know my husband had a little less experience than me didnt make him any less mature or any less of a man, it all depends.
Were traditional in the sense that right now I dont work, I use to work all the time 2 3 jobs even after we got married I worked but because he deployed often hed rather me stay home so we had that time together when he was home instead of me having to go to work.
I handle all the finances in the house even the bills that are in his name Im theone that pays them or calls to talk to the people if theres a problem for us its easier with him gone 3 months home 3 months for me to handle it alls ince Im home more.
he helps me clean sometimes and even cooks lol.
BUT my friends whos husbands are younger have it just like us no different not better or worse! I know some of my friends who are 3 or 4 years older than their husbands still have less experience than their younger husbands so again no matter what age you are doesnt say how much experience you have!
You can take two 35 year old people one can have hardly any experience the other can have a whole lot of experience!
A 25 year old can possibly have more experience than a 35 year old it all depends on the person not the age.

Well, my husband is 10 years older than I am, but the only time I am submissive is in the bedroom. We both work equally as hard. I think that what makes a marriage is finding what's right for you, and not everyone else.

When I started dating my husband I thought it was awesome I was pretty much in control. But know I am like grow some balls dude and stand up to me. I love my husband but he doesn't know when to be a man. One of his buddies asked who was the man of the house and he said he was. I said well how come I am stuck wearing the balls.

hahahahaha
my husband is 7 years older than me- I am only 23 but i am the more mature one in our relationship. I set up the budget, I turn potential fights into an important coversation between adults. Of course, this is not ALWAYS... but much of the time it is.
Now, I couldn't be so successful at what I try to do if I didn't have a partner who is also doing his best to make our marriage work. We are best friends. we will get through this life together and support and love each other as much as we can. I don't see anything as "lead and/or follow".
I am happy that sometimes he is better at things than I am or knows something that I need to learn (like the value of patience. He has learned it, I am still learning it).
There are also things that he can learn from me.
I like it this way. My husband has a career going but he is wonderfully affectionate and young at heart. I like everything about him and I think we balance each other out nicely.

ps. i just posted about my husband being 7 years older.. but I just had a thought and that thought is.. sometimes I have the feeling he is submitting to ME. And then if I get too dependent on him ever or really needy and can't make a decision I feel like he doesn't especially like it. My husband is emotional and loving and affectionate and I think he likes a strong woman who can stand up for herself and is capable. I believe thats why I snared him and some other girl didnt. cuz thats me. (my husband is gorgeous and had lots of girls before me.. I was the first he ever wanted to be with in a relationship- not just a fling lol.. he married me of course..)

Hello. My husband is 3 years younger than I am and our marriage, like most, is a partnership. We are equal in our marriage and each give 110% to it. We share the houshold chores (everything from cooking to mowing the yard). We both contribute to the household income and we talk about EVERYTHING! All marrages are different and this works for us.

My husband is 6 years older then I am. We are each full partners in this marriage, and if it were anything other then that I would not be with him. I do not want to be anyone's "responsibility" anymore then I want to have to be responsible for anyone else.

My husband and I are the same age. He is still the leader of our home. The reason is because we are both Christians and the Bible states that the wife must submit to her husband and he must submit to God. Everything he has me do, he answers to God for it. We have the same amount of life experience and that's find with us. Because whenever he makes a decision he first listens to what I have to say about it and he ALWAYS puts me and our children first. It does not matter if he's the same age as me or not.

Where in the bible does it say that?

Ephesians 5:22-33

Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, people have never hated their own bodies, but they feed and care for them, just as Christ does the church- for we are members of his body. For this reason a man will his father and mother and me united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mystery- but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also much love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

**Contrary to popular belief, submission in marriage is not a curse inflicted on women. Submitting to your husband doesn't mean you're inferior, weak or unimportant. Submission is God's call to wives and husbands to yield to each other in love. God desires our reverence for him to translate into love and respect for each other. So he gives a husband and wife unique ways to put the other first in marriage- which promotes harmony and ultimately brings God glory. Your role differs from your husband's, but it's equally valuable. Consider it a privilege, not a curse, and remember your motive- your reverence for Christ.
(True Identity New International Version; at issue pg 1661)

I'm glad you can follow that. But I don't believe that I could ever "submit" to my husband. We are equal in all ways. I'm a Christian, but I'm also a femanist. I could never be with a man who would expect that from me.

well my husband is 4 1/2 yrs younger than me...no one leads and no oe follows in our marriage...we have a great marriage....so what ive had more "life" experience than he has....he enjoys that...and kinda finds it sexy in the bedroom...

my man and i both have our roles, but they're equal.

he cooks. i do the dishes.
i do the laundry. he takes out the trash.
he does the grocery shopping. i do the shopping for toiletries and other random household items.
i make sure the bills get paid on time. he makes sure the oil in the vehicles gets changed on time.
when something big comes up, we discuss it and reach a mutual decision. when it's something we can't decide on, we meet halfway and compromise.

it works for us. we've known each other since high school, and we were friends first. we still operate alot like friends, in a lot of ways... but in all the ways that really matter, we're deeply in love and definately lovers.

My first husband was 9 years older than me but he couldn't lead for anything. He was useless. The man I have now is my age and we share leadership based on our own strengths. It is way better this way, at least for me.

I agree with you on the roles of husband and wife. My husband is 4 1/2 years younger then me though! Hes always been the leader. He controls the finances and takes care of our family completely. I know its strange because hes so much younger, but he does it and I love him!

To be completely honest it sucks!!! My husband is the same age as me and he's the most immature person i have ever seen! Sometimes I wish I would have found an older man because talking to my husband is like talking to a damn brick wall! He thinks he knows everything and he thinks he makes the best desicions in the world and he doesn't. I mean he f***s up a lot and not over small things I mean MAJOR things. Don't even get me started lol The point is when you marry a guy that's the same age or younger it makes marriage so much harder...sometimes I get so frustrated I cry myself to sleep...I even find myself wanting to hurt him sometimes. Thank god I have good discipline...I have often wondered why I don't just leave and be done with his bullshit, but I never do...that makes me mad at myself sometimes. I guess I keep holding out for hope that he'll change, but 7 years later he still hasn't...he's still the same as he was at 20...how sad right?

I feel sorry for you.

My husband is a year younger than me. He doesn't need to be older than me to be the man that he is.

age has nothing to do with spending the rest of your life with someone. i'm sorry that you think he needs to "lead" you. that just sounds crazy. my husband and i are in this together...everything we do and every decision we make.

My husband is 2 months younger than me. We have been together for 6 years. We also have traditional roles. How does it work? It's easy, he has better leadership skills than I do. Age isn't the ONLY thing that determines someone's leadership skills. It's just naturally a born leader and I am not. I am strong in other areas, but not leadership.

It works because I am not going to be submissove to anyone. I didn't marry for that reason I married to have a partnership to have an equal to spend my life with.

Same age, thirteen years married. One child. I use to work a lot and never see my family. Now I stay home and see my family all the time. Even though I am a stay at home mom now, and holding down a more traditional role, we still do things together. We are equals in most ways. He may make the money, and I may make the dinner, but we are equal partners in this marriage. We married at 18 after only knowing each other for 4 months. We were head over heels and we were barely legal. We dated for only 30 days before he left for BASIC, then we wrote letters for two months, and then we were engaged the same day he graduated BASIC, married about a month later. Love is what makes or breaks every marriage and I feel sorry for you that you think age has something to do with the success of your marriage. I dated a man who was 26 when I was 16, all of his life experience led him to slip me some drugs and other crazy things! Open your eyes sweetie, age don't make you mature or wise!

My husband is right at 3 years older(his b-day it the day before mine), but I dont think that because he is older that he should be my leader and that I should be submissove to him. We are totally equal in our roles. And if anything I take more of a leadership(not by trying to though), because while he is away I take on the bill paying and saving of the money. Well I guess also while he is here I do it also, just works for us. I am not sure that as a military family, it would work as well as him as the leader because while he is away fighting a war he just does not have time to deal with money issues and other things. But this is just my opinion. I am sure if the way ya'll are doing it is working then that is works for ya'll.

Age is nothing but a number sweetie. I'm actually 6 months older than my husband , but you'd never guess

Even traditional families don't need a submissive wife :]

join 2008 crazy lady! women can be strong and independant and even older than their men! (not that i am) im tired of women taking these comfortable roles that society wants us to. follow your heart, it will never steer you wrong.

My boyfriend is 21 and I'm 24. He is much more mature than any other guy I have ever been with (thanks to the military)!! I love him for him and not for any other reason such as his age. He is better and kinder to me than any older guy has ever been. The military shaped him into a well rounded man and that's why I'm with him. I wouldn't trade him for a older man.

Plus -- He get's points from the other men in his group because I'm older! He loves it... LOL!!!! ;-D

Our marriage is based off a partner ship. We are equals. We respect each other and our opinions and meet each other in the middle with things like discipline household chores and life in general. I am a christian but I am not going lower myself to "submit" myself to my husband...

You know what is funny? DH is 2 months younger than me and the baby of his family (he has 4 big sisters and mom and dad). I am the oldest of 4 kids with divorced parents raised by a mom who was traumatized by the divorce. (Needless to say I raised my sibblings.) We found our way to eachother and kinda just eased into our roles. I find that although he has grown up a lot, I balance him out on certian things where he never was forced to be a grown up. Basically, what im saying was, he married me and i keep him in check and make up for his immaturaties, and he keeps me young and makes me feel like I don't have to be the responsible one all the time. I guess In our situation neither of us would have made it with the tradiotional older guy/younger girl roles, due to our upbringings. Does that make sence? I hope so!!! LOL. Great question though.

I believe overall my husband is the head of the household. But I believe we walk SIDE BY SIDE, not him leading me. We make decisions together, we grow together, we talk it out together. That is why age doesnt matter. Our experiences in life happen together, and I wouldnt have it any other way.

I have a "traditional" marriage, too, based on biblical doctrine. Does that mean my husband "lords" over me. Of course not. For most, looking at our marriage, it would seem that I wear the pants. I do the bills (he does the long range financial planning), I make most of the major purchases and "suggest" our family vacations. We are one month apart in age so that isn't a factor. We talk about everything to make sure we come to a decision. Maybe we get along so well because we talked about most big issues before we got married (how many kids, me working after kids, how much to save, what our spending money would be), so we don't have any major issues. That said, there are some issues, not many, but some where compromise isn't possible. In those instances (thing there has been one so far in our 11 year marriage), that I said my piece and then let it go. He had final say. Now, if that is a master-slave relationship, as some of you have hinted, yeah right. I'm not subservient, dumb, etc, need someone to control me. I do know, that I TRUST him to make the decision. Why is it "lowering" yourself to have someone have the final say over big stuff? Do you "lower" yourself at work to take direction? Does your military husband "lower" himself to take orders from his superior? No.

I don't think you can compare a job to a marriage. At work we all have supervisors we must "submit" to, but a marriage is a partnership.

My hubby is four years younger than me. We are quite happy, the only problem that we both have is the fact that we both hold our feelings in and it usually comes to a point where we both just can't stand it anymore and it comes out when least expected...but only two fights in almost four years is good. We both respect each other and are totally honest and it just works. It was funny though, when we were dating and he met my folks for the first time, my mom asked how old he was and then said he was just a baby...it was hilarious! They loved him though, and still do!

For starters - no one in our household is "the leader" nor should they be. Marriage is a union and we work together as a team - for example, he makes the money, I manage it - right down to collecting his credit cards if he goes overboard. He's a good long term manager, and I'm good with short term.

He doesn't walk in front of me nor behind me. I don't walk in front of him or behind him. We walk side by side. Each of us have our high points and low points and we compliment each other well; where one is weak, the other takes control and just some input on the "life's experience" thing -- quite frankly, just because someone is older than you doesn't make him/her more experienced at life. Sorry - but I've been down that age road too many times to know that to be given truth.

Not all of us are Christian, so the whole "submission" thing just never comes up.

My husband and I are 8 HOURS apart. We have the same birthday. Our marriage works just fine. There is no leader in our marriage ... only a faithful partnership. He is not my leader...he's my best friend.

My husband is 8 years younger then me, and he is the head of our home. I am laughing so hard at the women who are so freaked out about that word submit, you are probably the ones who make your husband submit to you. I love that someone posted that right from the bible. I was raised the man is the head of the house hold, there is nothing but respect in our home neither one of us rules over the other, but I do love the fact that I CAN submit to my husband and he does not hold his thumb to my forehead, I just can not believe how some of you women reacted EX: This is my life I run it for ME, I do what I want (bet your marriage is great), Go by what doctor Phil says "hows that working for you?"

This is ridiculous...How do you think the marriage works? It works the same way yours works...We love eachother, we respect eachother, we live the same lifestyle that you live..we are just the same age! You cant be serious w/ this question!

My husband is 7 yrs older than me, but I dont think thats why I submit to him. I dont think its and age thing. I think every relationship has there leader..... most will not admit it! I am old fashion. He is the leader of the house and always will be. Our kids know it and I know it. We are partners in all things, but what he wants gos. He is the bread winner of the house and I am happy to call him my life partner and husband.

My hubby is a bit younger than me, but WAY more mature than all the older men I dated. He's actually the only man I ever dated younger than me. And our relationship is a partnership as well. I don't do traditional very well. It just doesn't always seem fair that way. Its not a 50/50 relationship- we both have to give 100% to make it work in this military lifestyle.

H there!

My husband is four years younger than me. The thing is, he is great at carrying the groceries and all that crap up all our stairs! Go younger, hot husband.... Yaye me!

My husband is about a year and half older than me so I would consider that close in age. How it works for us is I wear the pants in the family, lol. We discuss things but usually it is me making the final decisions when it comes to the family.

Is this for real? Like, you're seriously asking that question and you don't know the answer? It works the same as any other relationship. Age doesn't matter, the two people do. We respect and treat each other like equals rather than expecting one another to fit into silly roles.

Im 26 and he's 25. Honestly sometimes it shows. If I am busy trying to get everything/everyone ready...I sometimes find him and our oldest son playing vidio games together.. taking even longer...rather then help me get things moving he will shout something like "could you crab me my sweater from upstairs babe" And there have been a few times I have lost my cool and 'kindly' reminded him that im NOT his mother...and that it would be nice if he played HIS 'role' if he expects me to play mine. for the most part he is really good about helping with the kids, the house chores I work full time too...my job may not be as important or as heroic to the country...but god dammit..its half our income..and we are equals..best friends really..and the only submissive body in this house is the dog. That is not my style. He makes decisions that are best for the whole family so I try not to argue with him too much. he respects what I have to say...but I tend want things for me...him for the whole family..