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Have you ever thought about joining the military? I can't say that I ever have and here are some of my reasons. Please feel free to comment and add yours!
My fiance told me I was "not allowed" to commission in the Army as an officer. When he gets back I'm leaving him because I can't be with a man who tells me what I can and can not do. Particularly when it comes to serving my country...
I just wish I could break it off sooner...but he isn't stable and I'm worried that causing him distractions now would cause someone (either him or one of his men) to get hurt over there.
7 months and counting and then OCS here I come...
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He is thinking of your safety. I was going to commission and after my husband deployed he said no way in hell. Your fiance' is just a MAN trying to protect his woman. He has seen all the shit that happens over there and is only trying to protect you from it. You are obviously not in love with him and want to be his wife or you would respect that he loves you enough to protect you from the horrors over there.
I disagree, #1. While he may have good intentions in worrying for her safety (as my husband worried for mine when I was in), it takes a real selfish bastard to try to make somebody deny their calling to serve.
I told my husband not long ago that I was thinking about going back in, and he did not love the idea at all, but he said, "when I met you, you were a soldier, and if you want to be a soldier again, I may not like it, but I will be behind you 100%."
OP, I say do what your gut feeling tells you is right. If that's to go to OCS, then do it. Only you know what your real calling is.
Having someone tell me what I can or can't do is a total deal breaker for me as well.
Good for you for standing up for yourself!
No matter what, if he told you because he fears for your safety, then he should have expressed it like that to you. But definitely NOT say you weren't allowed to do it!! HELLO?? - did he just wake up and it's 1920? I commend you on waiting to break up with him for the safety of him and other soldiers. Good luck with OCS!!
"protecting his woman"? Are you serious? Is she an object or a possession? I'm not anybody's "woman", and DH knows there is no telling me what I 'can' and 'can't' do.
Good for you, OP. You don't need to be controlled, or protected from life by someone else. You are a big girl and can make your own decisions. I know you'll do well!
There is a big difference when am man says "not allowed" and "it isn't safe". Also, the OP used the words "he isn't stable". Not sure OP what attracted him to you in the first place, but glad you have enough sense to get out of it. Would recommend you wait until the night before you leave to tell him, and do so in public and DON"T go back to your home (hopefully by then your stuff will be packed up and you'll be in a hotel). Don't give him the opportunity to stalk you or "punish" you for your decision.
OP:
To 9:01 am: I'm prior-service. I've been there, done that. I know what it costs. That's the main reason I want back in. The Army is who I am. I do not need a man to protect me from anything. I've done really well as a woman in the service and I have a lot of people behind me who think I would make a hell of an officer. I refuse to bow down to some man who thinks I can be told what to do. How could I look at myself in the mirror? It has nothing to do with love, unless you're talking about love for myself and my country. And I'm sorry...the last two come before love for anyone else. This isn't about me not loving him. It's about him not loving me enough to support me. AND the plan when we met was for me to finish school and commission so why does he suddenly get to say thats a no-go? It's 2008 and not 1908.
To 3:38 pm: I'm not worried about that. He knows if he lays a hand on me I will feed him his own nuts for breakfast. He may think about it but he would be stupid to act on it. He has terrible PTSD. Has had it since the first deployment. He does not get the help he needs. I just don't want to see the consequences of him having a breakdown reverberate back on to his men. He already does stupid things when he gets angry over there and I could only imagine the suicide mission he would lead them on over this. But thanks for the concern for my safety. It means a lot that not everyone turns away from women who are in that situation.
There's a big difference between him saying "I don't want you to do it" and "I won't let you do it, and if you do, I will leave you". The first is ok, the second is leave-his-ass-in-the-dust territory.
Good for you!! and Good luck !
Fuck him! Good luck!
good luck. I went through the saw thing with my husband I tod him we are equals and he knew I wasnt the stay at home and let him take "care" of everything. He understands that I am strong and it doesnt make him less of a man. Women like you make me proud. You are a great example of what women in the miltary are, not the stereotype that some women portray us to be
Women don't belong in the military.
You sound really stable and smart, go you!!!
i agree with 12:49.