You know, I'm getting very tired of this assault on anyone with traditional values.

I did not make that post about how women and men are not equal, but I think I know what the person who did make it meant by it. Nobody ever said men were inherently better. I certainly don't believe that they are. I do believe men and women are not the same, that we're different, and in that way, I suppose you could say unequal, because equal means the same, and we are just simply not. I do not think men are better, and I don't know anybody who does. I think I bring something to the table, and he brings something to the table, and those things are different, and yes, partially determined by gender.

Now, can you and whoever else keeps posting these things STOP with the nastiness?

I'm not the one who made that statement, and I don't think that men are better than women because they "have different equipment", but men and women are different. We're built different. Period. You show me a woman who can physically do EVERYTHING her husband can do.

Men and women are different. But that doesn't mean that one is better than the other. The end.

And I agree with you. Women who actually think that men are better are pathetic!

OP HERE. I'm not saying that you have to be EXACTLY THE SAME AS YOUR HUSBAND. Being wqual doesn't mean that you have to be able to do as many push-ups as your husband. It doesn't mean that you have to have exactly the same IQ, or muscle mass, or have the same abilities. Being equal in a marriage means that you both do the dishes, you both change the diapers, you both make decisions together.

And the woman that made the "equipment" remark on my other confession DID mean that MEN ARE BETTER THAN WOMEN. That is exactly what she meant. That men are better, so they should be "head of the hosuehold".

There shouldn't be a "head of the household". You should both do equal things in your marriage. I think it's ridiculous that there are some women out there that still go "You're the man, YOU make the decisions." YOU HAVE A BRAIN TOO! USE IT! MAKE YOUR OWN FREAKIN' DECISIONS EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE.

And YES, it does affect everyone. Women still don't make as much money as men for doing the same exact job. They make 70 cents for every dollar a man makes. And if women go running aorund saying "MEN ARE BETTER WE SHOULD SUBMIT TO THEM AND LET THEM MAKE ALL THE DECISIONS" then we're never going to make as much money because the people in charge are just going to think "They don't want it anyway. Why should we give it to them?"

Your actions DO have consequences, whether you believe that or not. All you have to do is open your eyes and look at the reality of the world around you. Women still do not hvae equal rights. We don't make as much money, and that's not fair. Why shouldn't I get paid the same as a man doing the same job as me? That's sexist. And if you don't think it is, you truly are an IGNORANT person.

And people who have their panties in a bunch, thinking it's ok to insult someone just because they don't share the same views need to go fuck themselves.

See, OP/11:36, that's YOUR view of marriage. I don't care if my husband pitches in with housework. I don't care if he changes diapers. He does help me out sometimes because he wants to, but I would not ask him to. He earns all the money, I do all the housework. That's fair if you ask me!

He is the head of our household, and we are happy that way. I'm sorry, but this has no bearing on you, the lady down the street, the queen of England, or anybody else. I went to school, I served in the military, and just like I chose those things, I also chose this. We tried it the other way. It didn't work for us, and we were extremely unhappy then. Not that it is any of your business. Since when is adopting a system that actually works and makes everyone involved happy wrong?

What I can't stand is the ones who think their way is the only way. I know that our way won't work for everybody, and I don't think there's anything wrong with people doing things differently than the way we do them. I find it kind of disturbing how I can't be afforded the same courtesy in return.

"Men and women are not equals, and no matter how much women's lib you want to shove down my throat, men and women will never be equals.

I am sorry if this offends anyone, but it's the truth. If men and women were supposed to be equal, then we'd all have the same equipment, and have the same capabilities."

This is the comment I was referring to in my original post. It is very clear that she means that men are just better than women period. It's a very sexist thing to say.

"And people who have their panties in a bunch, thinking it's ok to insult someone just because they don't share the same views need to go fuck themselves."

That's the most intelligent response you have for everything I said? It's ok for you to badmouth ME because I have different views than you, but I can't do the same? YOU'RE A FUCKING HYPOCRITE. Don't dish it out if you can't take it back in return. And seriously, if that's the most intelligent thing you have to say, then it's probably a good thing your husband makes all the decisions for you because you would probably be completely incapable of even making a decision about what to have for dinner, let alone making important decisions that could affect your whole family.

I don't think who does the dishes or changes the diapers has anything to do with whether or not a marriage equal. A football team would be an utter disaster if everyone 'shared' all duties. Teamwork, that is a good way to have an equal marriage as well. Even on a football team, there is a team leader... a quarterback. Do the other players have less value? Of course not.

"You know, acting like a complete cunt that you are, proves why some women SHOULDN'T be equal to men. Men are in power because most of them aren't catty, ignorant bitches like females are. I'd rather a men be in charge and get things done, than a woman who complains and whines and says how things aren't fair. Wah wah wah. Suck it up."

So you think it's ok that we don't make as much as men for doing the same exact job? Would it be ok if we weren't allowed to vote? Or wear pants? Or have a job at all in the first place? WOuld it be ok with you if all women were allowed to do was stay at home in housedresses and be barefoot and pregnant, cooking dinner every single night, never getting a break from the kids because BY GOD you're the mommy and that's your job...

You're a sexist stupid bitch. Do the world a favor and go jump off a very tall building.

I am not a cunt because I want equality for the sexes. You're a cunt because you don't.

Last time I checked as an AD member, I DID make the same basic pay as a man.

No, an ignorant person is someone who wants to be treated equal, but still goes around telling people what's best for them, and then when they don't comply, they call the person stupid and other disgusting names. Really, listen to yourself. If you think you're going to start any progression and movement with that kind of bitchy, angry attitude, you're not. It's pushing and improvements back further. And all it does it make you look like this stuck up, anal person who needs to get the sand out of her vag.

Couples should be equal. But if BOTH decide that one person should be the head, so what? So fucking what. It doesn't mean the woman doesn't get any say, or any imput. It usually just means that in that situation, the man is a better decision maker. What if it was a couple where the husband wanted the wife to make the initial decisions, because he felt she was better at it? Would you still bitch about inequality? I bet you wouldn't.

And you're preaching to the wrong choir. Women don't make enough money? Most military wives don't even work, so do you think that matters? In that case, the husband should be making most of the decisions anyway, since he's making most of the money.

If that's how people run their households, let them. It's not your life. And I very highly doubt it's because of them that "women don't get equal pay." Come on. Your attitude is holding women back just as much if not more. You can't expect respect out of people, and fairness, when you're spouting out anger and ignorance yourself. How about you worry about your own life and problems, and stay out of other's business? Because honestly, the only one who looks like a fool right now is you.

"Last time I checked as an AD member, I DID make the same basic pay as a man."

And the military is the ONLY place you will se that happen. A female lawyer, a female secretary, a female dentist, a female whatever does not make as much money as a man.

Here's the thing.

We can wear pants.
We can vote.
We can work.
We can pretty much do anything males can in the work force.

If paid was made equal (in most cases it is, you make it out like everyone pays males more and that's far from the truth), guess what? You'd find something else to bitch and complain about. Women are not oppressed. Sorry, but we aren't. Thinks are as fair as it's going to get now. I don't know what more you honestly want. Just seems to me you need something to whine and complain about just to make your pathetic life meaningful. I don't know where you get off telling people how their marriage should work, and I hope your husband doesn't have to put up with that bullshit spewing out of your mouth everyday.

You know what 11:59? Why don't you go tell that to the woman that called me a cunt? Why don't you go tell that to all the women that bitched me out on here? It's ok for them to do it because they agree with you? YOU ARE ALSO A FUCKING HYPOCRITE!

[i]And the military is the ONLY place you will se that happen. A female lawyer, a female secretary, a female dentist, a female whatever does not make as much money as a man.[/i]

No? My sister just started a job at a Hospital, starting pay being 72k. One of her ex classmates (who's a male) is working with her, and guess what? Same fucking pay.

Man, some of you need to take some chill pills. Really, you have no idea what goes on in other marriages, just like people don't see what goes on in yours. Relationships work differently for different people. If it works for them, why change that? Are you so unhappy in yours that you feel the need to insult others? I mean really now, come on.

THANK YOU, 11:59!! That's exactly what I was going to say. I made exactly the same as every other person in the US Army with my rank and time in service, male or female.

And also in various civilian fields, such as engineering (including my branch of it) the pay gap is almost eliminated. Female engineers make, on average 95% of what male engineers do. That's pretty good if you ask me.

I really can't stand this argument that women have it so bad. I never had it bad, and I've been female all my life.

"and I hope your husband doesn't have to put up with that bullshit spewing out of your mouth everyday."

My husband also thinks you're a bunch of fucking morons. AND YOU ARE. Just because you don't realize it, doesn't mean it's not true.

Wow. I am the person who wrote the comment, which I believe I said was, if men and women were the same, then they would have the same capabilities and the same equipment. In my mind, then that would make us men and women equals. I never once said, because we don't have a penis that doesn't make us equals. I said if we all had the same genitalia, and body designs, then we'd be more equal.

I never said anything about intelligence or about body mass. I never said anything about how much money is made or how much power one has over the other. I also never brought up marriage.

Way to mince words there OP. Thanks.

What you're doing today is TOTALLY making women's rights a number one priority in the mind of many. Especially attacking someone's ability to reproduce.

Because of people like you with such radical beliefs, women's rights are an absolute joke. Who cares is Susie Q. wants to stay home and raise a family. Who care is her husband John is the one who goes out in the world and makes all the money. Who care is ten years from now Susie decides to go back to school and gets a job where she makes more money then John. WHO FREKAING CARES!!!!!

When I first got married I made a significant amount more money than my husband did. Then as he got promoted and got furhter into his career, we made a decision, YES, I made a decision with my husband, that I would quit my job to stay home and raise our daughter because I would be spending the money I earned on daycare. That was something that we both agreed on, and I do not have to answer to my husband for anything. We both are equal partners in our marriage. Yes, I do ask his opinion on things, espcially major purchases. I don't think I should just be going out and buying a car because I am a woman and by God it's my right. It's our money, but I would never dream of going out and doing something with it without talking to my husband first. Just like he would never do that without talking to me.

It makes me sad to know that there are people out there who think that just because a woman consults her husband on something, then that's submitting to them. As long as there is no verbal or physical abuse in the marriage, then who cares? Let them be. They aren't hurting anyone. A lot of it has to do with religious beliefs, and again, as long as noone is hurting you with what they believe in, then just let people be. And please stop with the horrible words you are spouting, because trust me, you are not getting a whole lot of support in your quest for female domination.

Why don't you go burn your bra, and go frolick around outside with your nasty ass armpit hair flowing in the breeze.

For 12:10...

I hope your husband doesn't feel like he's screwing his daughter every time you have sex because you can't make any decisions for yourself, and your relationship is basically a "daddy/daughter" relationship anyway. "You tell me what to do, and I'll do it like I'm a teenager being told what to do by my father." I'm sorry, but that is not a healthy relationship.

hands you a bra

Have fun burning it.

12:23, who are you, or anyone else other than a trained professional, to say what is or isn't a healthy relationship? Even if you are a trained professional (which I doubt) you wouldn't be able to tell from here whose marriages are what.

Telling other people how their marriages should work is so wrong. Who cares if they do things in a way you don't think is the best? Like someone else already said, as long as there is no abuse, then it's not harming anybody.

You know, the fundamental principle of the feminist movement was that women should have the freedom to live how we choose. I'm pretty sure everyone here chose their lifestyles, so if you are a feminist (which you haven't said you are, but I'm going out on a limb here) then isn't it against the principles of a philosophy you believe in (feminism) to say that women who chose to live a different way than you do are stupid and shouldn't reproduce? It is quite contradictory, really. That is, if you are a feminist. Maybe you are just a overly critical individual, in which case, well, better you than me.

I do not have radical beliefs because me and my husband make decisions together. If you think that's radical, go live in the 1920's where you belong.

Who said anything about radical beliefs?

JUST BECAUSE ME AND MY HUSBAND MAKE DECISIONS TOGETHER, AND I ACTUALLY HAVE MY OWN OPINIONS ABOUT THINGS INSTEAD OF LETTING MY HUSBAND THINK FOR ME DOESN'T MEAN I'M BURNING BRAS OR FUCKING MY HUSBAND WITH A STRAP ON.

YOU ALL THINK I'M OUT OF LINE???? GO READ SOME OF THE THINGS YOU PIECES OF SHIT ARE WRITING. YOU'RE MORE FUCKING IMMATURE THAN A BUNCH OF 5TH GRADERS.

OMG I THINK FOR MYSELF! WHAT A HORRIBLE THING!

THAT'S WHAT YOU ALL ARE SAYING, AND YES THAT MAKES YOU AN IDIOT.

No, radical is pushing your lifestyle on others and calling them idiots for not sharing the same view, which seems to be what the OP is doing.

LMFAO! OP you need some serious medication. You honestly believe men whose wives shave their crotches all want to do little girls? You have some serious issues. Plus, "I don't make as much money wah wah wah." Quit your bitching. You can type until you're blue in the face, but you aren't going to change anybody's lifestyle choices. It's called tolerance. You're not going to agree with everybody's choices, but you'll live a miserable life thinking you're better than everyone else.

LMAO....THIS WHOLE PAGE IS HALARIOUS...THIS IS WHY. 98% OF MY FRIENDS ARE NOT MILITARY WIVES SUCH AS MYSELF..DRAMA DRAMA DRAMA. MEN AND WOMEN ARE EQUAL! ---- EQUALLY DIFFERENT. HA! SOME WOMEN ARE STRONGER THAN SOME MEN SOME MEN ARE STRONGER THAN SOME WOMEN. AND WE ALL BRING DIFFERENT THINGS TO THE TABLE. LIFE COULD NOT GO ON WITHOUT BOTH OF US. SO WHO GIVES A RATS ARSE?

and the sheer fact that some of you attack and judge the OP without knowing her. just prooves how immature you all are. shes entitled to believe what she wants. and in a way i do agree. my husband and I change nights when hes home no matter what. 1 night hes got the kids the next mine. although hes gone now and has been since our daughter was 3 weeks old. im not bitching that i have to do everything by myself but him being the REAL man he is. is volunteering to take hte kids the whole first month. am i gunna hold him to that? NO. but..a real man. HELPS AROUND THE HOUSE as well as brining in an income. ifyour gunna start a family help raise it. its not all about bringing in the money.

im just glad my husband realizes that being a participant in his childs life is more important that just bringing in an income. the only reason we are still in the military even though he wants out is because hes doing whats best for our son and his health issues.

a real man shares the household responsibilities just as a real woman does. and not in every home is a MAN the one bringing in the income... now a days both work, now a days some woman work and some men stay at home.

who really cares? if some woman wants to be a "slave" to her house hold fine. i k now that im very content being a SAHM raising my children and doing these damn dishes im doing right now LOL. but when my hubby is home...do i expect help? yes... because im pretty sure its not just me making a mess in the house. im pretty sure.... this is OUR home not just mine or his.

we are both adult enough to do what needs to get done without bitching whining complaining or arguing about it. its called... dun dun dunn... marraige... WORK TOGETHER

"JUST BECAUSE ME AND MY HUSBAND MAKE DECISIONS TOGETHER, AND I ACTUALLY HAVE MY OWN OPINIONS ABOUT THINGS INSTEAD OF LETTING MY HUSBAND THINK FOR ME DOESN'T MEAN I'M BURNING BRAS OR FUCKING MY HUSBAND WITH A STRAP ON.

YOU ALL THINK I'M OUT OF LINE???? GO READ SOME OF THE THINGS YOU PIECES OF SHIT ARE WRITING. YOU'RE MORE FUCKING IMMATURE THAN A BUNCH OF 5TH GRADERS."

Wow, if you aren indeed the OP, you have a lot, and I mean A LOT of growing up to do. You've been the one flinging imsults and using foul language. You're the one who is acting like the 5th grader. If this was near and dear to your heart, which I am beginning to question, you would be able to defend yourself and your beliefs without the cussing.

"Are you not listening to yourself? You think that anything you've said thus far is actually mature? Wow you really are a crazy cunt."

All I've been trying to say is that women should think for themselves. YOU PEOPLE ARE CALLING ME A CUNT, AND TAKLING ABOUT HOW I APPARENTLY FUCK MY HUSBAND WITH A STRAP ON.

I am not the crazy disrespectful one here. I did not get disrespectful until you crazy cunts started saying horrible things about me and my husband. If you look at my first several posts, nothing degrading was said towards anyone specifically....just that I thought women should think for themselves. If you can't handle that, and all you can do is call me a cunt and say degrading things about my husband, then you all shouldn't even be on this website in the first place. You're not intelligent enough to have an adult conversation and just respectufully state your own opinion as I did in my first lengthy comment to my own post. There are such things as "friendly debates", but apparently you people have never heard of them.

Just because I don't let my husband treat me like I'm his daughter doesn't mean I wear a strap on, and it doesn't mean that I'm a cunt. It means I think for myself, and I share my opinions with my husband and we make decisions together. THAT'S IT. My husband repsects my opinions, and he also believes that we should make decisions together, since decisions don't just affect one person, they affect everyone in the family, so why shouldn't all the adults involved have a say to what the final outcome is?

The most intelligent things you can say is that I'm a strap-on wearing cunt...all because I disagree with you and think that I'm allowed a voice in the final outcome of things.

SO NO...I AM NOT the crazy immature cunt. You people are.

"Wow, if you aren indeed the OP, you have a lot, and I mean A LOT of growing up to do. You've been the one flinging imsults and using foul language. You're the one who is acting like the 5th grader. If this was near and dear to your heart, which I am beginning to question, you would be able to defend yourself and your beliefs without the cussing."

OMG IS NO ONE READING THE WHOLE LSIT OF COMMENTS HERE? I ONLY STARTED DOING THAT AFTER PEOPLE ATTACKED ME FIRST! DON'T FUCKING COMMENT IF YOU HAVEN'T READ THE WHOLE THING.

I GOT ATTACKED FIRST, SO YES, I'M GOING TO DEFEND MYSELF.

directed to 2:03 not the OP here but umm wasnt you all calling her a cunt and making rude comments such as fucking her husband with a strap on? tisk tisk it seems like a lot of us are being hypocrits...... i think she had a reason to start cussing. although.. maybe a bit over the top. im pretty sure id be furious if someone said that to me. Some people just get passionate about they are trying to get across then when attacked only makes them furious when people start flinging insults isntead of steping back being adults and trying to understand where the person is coming from. so had they not attacked her im sure she would be way more calm.

please dont tell me youve never cursed in an arguement. unless your a saint. i highly doubt that.

"I am not the crazy disrespectful one here. I did not get disrespectful until you crazy cunts started saying horrible things about me and my husband. If you look at my first several posts, nothing degrading was said towards anyone specifically.."

Are you a moron? You said something degrading in your original post!!! You are so full of shit and delusional.

"Women who think that men are better than women just because "we don't have the same equipment" are so stupid they shouldn't be allowed to reproduce."

That's your original post. Enlighten me on how the hell that isn't degrading anyone. You're fucking nuts lady. And the whole "women who shave are like little girls?" are you kidding me? Someone needs to put you in the loony bin, because you are nothing but a complete nutcase.

psycho psycho psycho

You knew your confession was going to cause drama from the start. You could of said it a completely different way, but you were rude from the beginning. You're so full of it and really need to get on meds if you think otherwise.

This is commenter 2:03 here...

"Women who think that men are better than women just because "we don't have the same equipment" are so stupid they shouldn't be allowed to reproduce."

So are you telling me that her confession wasn't childish at all? I just copied, pasted, and quoted her confession, and from the get go she was insulting people. I was not one of the people who said she probably screwed her husband with a strap-on, I also never called her a C-U-N-T. I told her to go burn her bra.

I never once came out and said I was perfect, commenter 2:21, but thank you for once again, putting words into my mouth. It's funny how people do that on here and in real life.

My whole point was is that if she is truly for women's rights, she's going about it the wrong way by insulting women in the first place. And please, don't tell me that I am being mean and rude to her, she's the one who wrote the confession in the first place. She knew this was going to spark controversy and arguments, almost like she gets off on it. No offense OP, but come on. You can defend yourself without stooping to the level of the people who called you a C-U-N-T, and who also made comments about your husband. You don't need to cuss, and you also don't need to insult or belittle people who choose to live a life different from yours.

Women can be housewives, and still be in control of their world. Women can be leaders of nation's, and live chaotic lives without any rhyme or reason. It's all on how you choose to live. If you want to be the one at home who makes decisions without talking to your husband, that's great. If you have your own opinions which differ from your husband's, that's awesome. A lot of women agree with their husbands on lots of things because, and did it ever occur to you, that they might have similar view points on a lot of things? A lot of women don't get into discussions about politics and religion and other various topics because they don't want to make themselves look like asses, because they don't know what they're talking about. I am the same way. It's not that I don't have an opinion, it's just that there are things I am not very informed on, and instead of making myself look like an idiot in a conversation, I choose to not speak.

Anyway...

I am very sorry if you are getting attacked on here. But to get upset when people have differing viewpoints from you, and to try and play the innocent card from when you were insulting from the get go, well, that doesn't work in my little world.

So come on, tell me where I am wrong. I know you want to.

I totally agree, 2:50. The original post was very rude and disrespectful, and the thing is, there have been a lot of posts which offered perfectly adequate rebuttals without being the least bit disrespectful or profane, and the OP did not even acknowledge any of those, choosing instead to reply only to the heated ones, with more insults.

This was definitely posted looking for a fight, and well, OP, it looks like you got one. I didn't leave any of the rude comments on here, but I have no trouble understanding why somebody would say those things in response to a post like this one.

Maybe if you really have some view on something, you should say what you think without insulting everybody who doesn't agree right off the bat. That would probably make you look a lot more credible, and yeah, sane.

FOR YOU PEOPLE THAT SAID I SHOULDN'T CUSS...

I GOT CUSSED AT FIRST. WHAT DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND ABOUT THAT????????? I DID NOT START CUSSING AT PEOPLE UNTIL THEY STARTED ATTACKING ME. GO BACK AND READ ALL THE POSTS YOURSELF. YOU'RE ALL A BUNCH OF HYPOCRITES. IT'S OK FOR YOU TO CALL ME NAMES, JUST BECAUSE I HAVE AN OPINION THAT'S DIFFERENT THAN YOURS (OR WITH THE WAY YOU THINK, BECAUSE I HAVE AN OPINION IN THE FIRST PLACE...), BUT IT'S NOT OK FOR ME TO RETALIATE?

SERIOUSLY, NO ONE HAS SAID ANYTHING ABOUT PEOPLE THAT CALLED ME A CUNT JUST BECAUSE I HAVE A DIFFERENT OPINION. NO ONE HAS SAID ANYTHING ABOUT THE "STRAP-ON" COMMENT AND HOW INAPPROPRIATE THAT WAS. LIKE YOU PEOPLE THINK IT'S OK THAT THEY DID THAT.

AND NO I DID NOT KNOW THAT MY POST WAS GOING TO CAUSE PEOPLE TO CALL ME A CUNT. I DID NOT KNOW THAT IT WAS GOING TO START ANY DRAMA. PEOPLE DON'T EVER COMMENT ON MY SHIT, SO WHY WOULD I THINK IT WOULD START NOW???

WHAT YOU PEOPLE SAID TO ME WAS SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH MORE INAPPROPRIATE THAN MY ORIGINAL POST, BUT FOR SOME REASON, YOU PEOPLE JUST THINK IT'S OK.

THANKS A LOT FOR THE INSULTS. I APPARENTLY AM A STRAP-ON WEARING, BRA-BURNING FEMINIST THAT NEEDS TO GO TO THE LOONY BIN BECAUSE I BELIEVE THAT WOMEN SHOULD NOT LET THEIR HUSBANDS THINK FOR THEMSELVES.

DO YOU NOT GET HOW INSANE THAT SOUNDS???????????? COME ON PEOPLE. THAT CANNOT HONESTLY SOUND SANE TO YOU PEOPLE.

"and the OP did not even acknowledge any of those, choosing instead to reply only to the heated ones, with more insults."

LIKE YOU WOULDN'T REPLY IF SOMEONE CALLED YOU A CUNT, OR IF SOMEONE SAID "THE OP MUST FUCK HER HUSBAND WITH A STRAP-ON". YOU SERIOUSLY WOULDN'T TRY AND DEFEND YOURSELF?

I GOT THOSE COMMENTS SIMPLY BECAUSE THEY DISAGREE WITH ME. THAT IS NOT OK NO MATTER WHAT YOU PEOPLE FUCKING SAY.

IF YOU'RE ALL SO MUCH MORE MATURE THAN ME, THEN WHY WERE THOSE COMMENTS MADE IN THE FIRST PLACE? THE PEOPLE THAT MADE THOSE COMMENTS ARE MORE MATURE THAN ME? I DON'T FUCKING THINK SO!

"I am very sorry if you are getting attacked on here. But to get upset when people have differing viewpoints from you, and to try and play the innocent card from when you were insulting from the get go, well, that doesn't work in my little world.

So come on, tell me where I am wrong. I know you want to."

What I said may have been rude, but I did not call anyone a strap-on wearing, bra-burning, bullshit-spewing, radical feminist did I? DID I????? NO. I DID NOT.

THOSE WERE FUCKING UNCALLED FOR NO MATTER HOW RUDE MY POST WAS. LIKE I SAID IN A COMMENT I JUST POSTED, IF THEY ARE REALLY THAT MUCH MORE MATURE THAN ME, THEN THOSE THINGS SHOULD NEVER HAVE BEEN SAID. PERIOD. GO AHEAD TELL ME I'M WRONG. I KNOW YOU WANT TO.

I did not personally attack anyone until they attacked me with cuss words, and inappropriate things like "she must wear a strap on". Oh yeah...I'm such a man because I have OPINIONS. At least I don't let my husband walk all over me. At least my husband has enough respect for me to hear my opinion, and at least we have enough respect for each other that we make all the decisions together, mutually. No one ever individually "has the final say". We do it together. THAT'S HOW A MARRIAGE SHOULD BE. An equal partnership. THAT'S ALL I WAS TRYING TO SAY.

NOW FOR CHRIST'S SAKE. THAT DOES NOT MAKE ME INSANE. THAT MAKES YOU INSANE FOR CALLING ME ALL THOSE NAMES, PERSONALLY INSULTING ME AND MY HUSBAND, AND FOR ATTACKING ME BECAUSE I HAVE A FUCKING OPINION.

YES MY OP WAS RUDE. BUT I DID NOT PERSONALLY ATTACK ANY ONE INDIVIDUAL PERSON UNTIL THEY ATTACKED ME FIRST.

Holy crap, what is wrong with the OP? Girl has some issues.

I HAVE ISSUES????? WHAT ABOUT THE PEOPLE THAT CALLED ME A CUNT? I DID NO NAME CALLING UNTIL THAT HAPPENED FIRST.

WHAT ABOUT THE STRAP-ON COMMENT????????

YOU PEOPLE ALL NEED TO GO TO THE FUCKING LOONY BIN IF YOU THINK THOSE THINGS ARE OK.

I did not personally attack anyone until they attacked me with cuss words, and inappropriate things like "she must wear a strap on". Oh yeah...I'm such a man because I have OPINIONS. At least I don't let my husband walk all over me. At least my husband has enough respect for me to hear my opinion, and at least we have enough respect for each other that we make all the decisions together, mutually. No one ever individually "has the final say". We do it together. THAT'S HOW A MARRIAGE SHOULD BE. An equal partnership. THAT'S ALL I WAS TRYING TO SAY.

NOW FOR CHRIST'S SAKE. THAT DOES NOT MAKE ME INSANE. THAT MAKES YOU INSANE FOR CALLING ME ALL THOSE NAMES, PERSONALLY INSULTING ME AND MY HUSBAND, AND FOR ATTACKING ME BECAUSE I HAVE A FUCKING OPINION.

YES MY OP WAS RUDE. BUT I DID NOT PERSONALLY ATTACK ANY ONE INDIVIDUAL PERSON UNTIL THEY ATTACKED ME FIRST.

I did not personally attack anyone until they attacked me with cuss words, and inappropriate things like "she must wear a strap on". Oh yeah...I'm such a man because I have OPINIONS. At least I don't let my husband walk all over me. At least my husband has enough respect for me to hear my opinion, and at least we have enough respect for each other that we make all the decisions together, mutually. No one ever individually "has the final say". We do it together. THAT'S HOW A MARRIAGE SHOULD BE. An equal partnership. THAT'S ALL I WAS TRYING TO SAY.

NOW FOR CHRIST'S SAKE. THAT DOES NOT MAKE ME INSANE. THAT MAKES YOU INSANE FOR CALLING ME ALL THOSE NAMES, PERSONALLY INSULTING ME AND MY HUSBAND, AND FOR ATTACKING ME BECAUSE I HAVE A FUCKING OPINION.

YES MY OP WAS RUDE. BUT I DID NOT PERSONALLY ATTACK ANY ONE INDIVIDUAL PERSON UNTIL THEY ATTACKED ME FIRST.

I'm going to keep posting the same comment until someone fucking reads it and realizes that I'm not a crazy bitch just because I disagree with you people.

I did not personally attack anyone until they attacked me with cuss words, and inappropriate things like "she must wear a strap on". Oh yeah...I'm such a man because I have OPINIONS. At least I don't let my husband walk all over me. At least my husband has enough respect for me to hear my opinion, and at least we have enough respect for each other that we make all the decisions together, mutually. No one ever individually "has the final say". We do it together. THAT'S HOW A MARRIAGE SHOULD BE. An equal partnership. THAT'S ALL I WAS TRYING TO SAY.

NOW FOR CHRIST'S SAKE. THAT DOES NOT MAKE ME INSANE. THAT MAKES YOU INSANE FOR CALLING ME ALL THOSE NAMES, PERSONALLY INSULTING ME AND MY HUSBAND, AND FOR ATTACKING ME BECAUSE I HAVE A FUCKING OPINION.

YES MY OP WAS RUDE. BUT I DID NOT PERSONALLY ATTACK ANY ONE INDIVIDUAL PERSON UNTIL THEY ATTACKED ME FIRST.

See, OP, you're trying to play all innocent now. I haven't attacked you. I haven't made any insult against you. However, you REALLY had to expect that people were not going to take kindly to it when you said that an entire segment of society was too stupid to be allowed to reproduce.

I also think you have a serious misunderstanding of what most people are talking about on the other side of this. Nobody is talking about letting their husband walk all over them. People have said that various balances of power work for them. Just because this may not fit your idea of what a marriage is supposed to be doesn't make it wrong. You are not even trying to understand where anyone else is coming from. I understand where you are coming from. I have had that marriage you think is so ideal. I hated it. I was miserable every day, and so was my husband. We changed things to exactly what you are so intolerant of, and have been blissfully happy ever since. Should we, and those like us, just go and be miserable because our marriages don't fit YOUR idea of what a marriage should be? I really don't think so. You are nobody of power or influence in my life or anyone else's here.

Someone before mentioned tolerance. You need to learn a thing or two about it. I do not care how you choose to live your life. I do not make snap judgments about you based on the balance of power in your marriage, and even though you have really thrown people who do things the way I do them under the proverbial bus here, I don't think anything bad of people who do things the way you do them. I don't think they are all a bunch of crazy ladies, even though, I will admit, you aren't coming off as very put together here. Take people for the individuals they are, and know that what works for you isn't going to work for everybody. Nobody is doing you any harm by having a different marriage than what you have.

No, you are completely, and utterly crazy. And everyone knows it now BUT you. Which is sad.

Seriously, OP CALM DOWN! This is a discussion board. You brought drama from another post into a new one. You couldn't have possibly believed that it wouldn't cause drama. You're just feeding the fire by replying to everything. Just leave it alone.

Side note: I'm one of the commenters who said you need meds, not because you "BELIEVE THAT WOMEN SHOULD NOT LET THEIR HUSBANDS THINK FOR THEMSELVES", but because you think men who enjoy shaved vaginas are pedophiles.

"You are not even trying to understand where anyone else is coming from."

No one is try to understand where I'm coming from either. They just automatically call me crazy instead of listening to what I'm really trying to say, and that's not fair either.

YOU KNOW WHAT PEOPLE? SINCE YOU CAN'T GET PAST MY ORIGINAL POST AND READ WHAT I'M REALLY TRYING TO SAY... JUST FORGET MY ORGINAL POST FOR LIKE 2 SECONDS. IS THAT POSSIBLE, OR WOULD YOU HAVE TO THINK TO MUCH AND ASK YOUR HUSBAND'S PERMISSION FIRST???

NOW, READ THIS, AND COMMENT ON THIS. I AM NOT CRAZY!

I did not personally attack anyone until they attacked me with cuss words, and inappropriate things like "she must wear a strap on". Oh yeah...I'm such a man because I have OPINIONS. At least I don't let my husband walk all over me. At least my husband has enough respect for me to hear my opinion, and at least we have enough respect for each other that we make all the decisions together, mutually. No one ever individually "has the final say". We do it together. THAT'S HOW A MARRIAGE SHOULD BE. An equal partnership. THAT'S ALL I WAS TRYING TO SAY.

NOW FOR CHRIST'S SAKE. THAT DOES NOT MAKE ME INSANE. THAT MAKES YOU INSANE FOR CALLING ME ALL THOSE NAMES, PERSONALLY INSULTING ME AND MY HUSBAND, AND FOR ATTACKING ME BECAUSE I HAVE A FUCKING OPINION.

YES MY OP WAS RUDE. BUT I DID NOT PERSONALLY ATTACK ANY ONE INDIVIDUAL PERSON UNTIL THEY ATTACKED ME FIRST.

"I'm going to keep posting the same comment" ; "I'm not a crazy bitch"

Sounds like an oxymoron to me.

"Someone before mentioned tolerance. You need to learn a thing or two about it."

I think the people that called me a cunt and told me a wear a strap-on need to learn a thing or two about toelrance as well, but no one seems to give a flying fuck about that, do they?

YOU KNOW WHAT PEOPLE? SINCE YOU CAN'T GET PAST MY ORIGINAL POST AND READ WHAT I'M REALLY TRYING TO SAY... JUST FORGET MY ORGINAL POST FOR LIKE 2 SECONDS. IS THAT POSSIBLE, OR WOULD YOU HAVE TO THINK TO MUCH AND ASK YOUR HUSBAND'S PERMISSION FIRST???

NOW, READ THIS, AND COMMENT ON THIS. I AM NOT CRAZY!

I did not personally attack anyone until they attacked me with cuss words, and inappropriate things like "she must wear a strap on". Oh yeah...I'm such a man because I have OPINIONS. At least I don't let my husband walk all over me. At least my husband has enough respect for me to hear my opinion, and at least we have enough respect for each other that we make all the decisions together, mutually. No one ever individually "has the final say". We do it together. THAT'S HOW A MARRIAGE SHOULD BE. An equal partnership. THAT'S ALL I WAS TRYING TO SAY.

NOW FOR CHRIST'S SAKE. THAT DOES NOT MAKE ME INSANE. THAT MAKES YOU INSANE FOR CALLING ME ALL THOSE NAMES, PERSONALLY INSULTING ME AND MY HUSBAND, AND FOR ATTACKING ME BECAUSE I HAVE A FUCKING OPINION.

YES MY OP WAS RUDE. BUT I DID NOT PERSONALLY ATTACK ANY ONE INDIVIDUAL PERSON UNTIL THEY ATTACKED ME FIRST.

Keep it up. You're just making yourself look more and more psycho. You reap what you sow.

You know, OP, you are not the first person to be called a nasty name on this website, and I'm sure you won't be the last. You are, however, the only one I have seen react this way to it.

You really expect the rest of us to take up for you when you have essentially told us all that we're stupid for the way we live our lives? I don't think so.

Okay, I will comment on your second post. I'm the one who mentioned tolerance. I don't really care what goes on in your marriage. If what you do works for you, then more power to you. Just because I believe my husband is "the head of our household" does not mean that he walks all over me. He respects me enough to care about my feelings. We talk about all of our decisions. He doesn't ask me to "submit" to him and he doesn't tell me what to do. He helps me around the house and with our son when I need it. I think you have an extreme misconception of this lifestyle.

" Anonymous said:

"I'm going to keep posting the same comment" ; "I'm not a crazy bitch"

Sounds like an oxymoron to me."

YOU WOULD TOO IF NO ONE WERE LISTENING TO YOU. I stated my opinion several times and no one bothers to read those posts. They're only reading the ones where I cussed at someone because someone cussed at me first.

HOW ABOUT YOU MORONS ALL READ THESE BEFORE YOU GO SAY I'M A FUCKING CRAZY BITCH:

" Anonymous said:

OP HERE. I'm not saying that you have to be EXACTLY THE SAME AS YOUR HUSBAND. Being wqual doesn't mean that you have to be able to do as many push-ups as your husband. It doesn't mean that you have to have exactly the same IQ, or muscle mass, or have the same abilities. Being equal in a marriage means that you both do the dishes, you both change the diapers, you both make decisions together.

And the woman that made the "equipment" remark on my other confession DID mean that MEN ARE BETTER THAN WOMEN. That is exactly what she meant. That men are better, so they should be "head of the hosuehold".

There shouldn't be a "head of the household". You should both do equal things in your marriage. I think it's ridiculous that there are some women out there that still go "You're the man, YOU make the decisions." YOU HAVE A BRAIN TOO! USE IT! MAKE YOUR OWN FREAKIN' DECISIONS EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE.

And YES, it does affect everyone. Women still don't make as much money as men for doing the same exact job. They make 70 cents for every dollar a man makes. And if women go running aorund saying "MEN ARE BETTER WE SHOULD SUBMIT TO THEM AND LET THEM MAKE ALL THE DECISIONS" then we're never going to make as much money because the people in charge are just going to think "They don't want it anyway. Why should we give it to them?"

Your actions DO have consequences, whether you believe that or not. All you have to do is open your eyes and look at the reality of the world around you. Women still do not hvae equal rights. We don't make as much money, and that's not fair. Why shouldn't I get paid the same as a man doing the same job as me? That's sexist. And if you don't think it is, you truly are an IGNORANT person."

"All I've been trying to say is that women should think for themselves. YOU PEOPLE ARE CALLING ME A CUNT, AND TAKLING ABOUT HOW I APPARENTLY FUCK MY HUSBAND WITH A STRAP ON.

I am not the crazy disrespectful one here. I did not get disrespectful until you crazy cunts started saying horrible things about me and my husband. If you look at my first several posts, nothing degrading was said towards anyone specifically....just that I thought women should think for themselves. If you can't handle that, and all you can do is call me a cunt and say degrading things about my husband, then you all shouldn't even be on this website in the first place. You're not intelligent enough to have an adult conversation and just respectufully state your own opinion as I did in my first lengthy comment to my own post. There are such things as "friendly debates", but apparently you people have never heard of them.

Just because I don't let my husband treat me like I'm his daughter doesn't mean I wear a strap on, and it doesn't mean that I'm a cunt. It means I think for myself, and I share my opinions with my husband and we make decisions together. THAT'S IT. My husband repsects my opinions, and he also believes that we should make decisions together, since decisions don't just affect one person, they affect everyone in the family, so why shouldn't all the adults involved have a say to what the final outcome is?

The most intelligent things you can say is that I'm a strap-on wearing cunt...all because I disagree with you and think that I'm allowed a voice in the final outcome of things.

SO NO...I AM NOT the crazy immature cunt. You people are."

"

FOR YOU PEOPLE THAT SAID I SHOULDN'T CUSS...

I GOT CUSSED AT FIRST. WHAT DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND ABOUT THAT????????? I DID NOT START CUSSING AT PEOPLE UNTIL THEY STARTED ATTACKING ME. GO BACK AND READ ALL THE POSTS YOURSELF. YOU'RE ALL A BUNCH OF HYPOCRITES. IT'S OK FOR YOU TO CALL ME NAMES, JUST BECAUSE I HAVE AN OPINION THAT'S DIFFERENT THAN YOURS (OR WITH THE WAY YOU THINK, BECAUSE I HAVE AN OPINION IN THE FIRST PLACE...), BUT IT'S NOT OK FOR ME TO RETALIATE?

SERIOUSLY, NO ONE HAS SAID ANYTHING ABOUT PEOPLE THAT CALLED ME A CUNT JUST BECAUSE I HAVE A DIFFERENT OPINION. NO ONE HAS SAID ANYTHING ABOUT THE "STRAP-ON" COMMENT AND HOW INAPPROPRIATE THAT WAS. LIKE YOU PEOPLE THINK IT'S OK THAT THEY DID THAT.

AND NO I DID NOT KNOW THAT MY POST WAS GOING TO CAUSE PEOPLE TO CALL ME A CUNT. I DID NOT KNOW THAT IT WAS GOING TO START ANY DRAMA. PEOPLE DON'T EVER COMMENT ON MY SHIT, SO WHY WOULD I THINK IT WOULD START NOW???

WHAT YOU PEOPLE SAID TO ME WAS SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH MORE INAPPROPRIATE THAN MY ORIGINAL POST, BUT FOR SOME REASON, YOU PEOPLE JUST THINK IT'S OK.

THANKS A LOT FOR THE INSULTS. I APPARENTLY AM A STRAP-ON WEARING, BRA-BURNING FEMINIST THAT NEEDS TO GO TO THE LOONY BIN BECAUSE I BELIEVE THAT WOMEN SHOULD NOT LET THEIR HUSBANDS THINK FOR THEM.

DO YOU NOT GET HOW INSANE THAT SOUNDS???????????? COME ON PEOPLE. THAT CANNOT HONESTLY SOUND SANE TO YOU PEOPLE."

"What I said may have been rude, but I did not call anyone a strap-on wearing, bra-burning, bullshit-spewing, radical feminist did I? DID I????? NO. I DID NOT.

THOSE WERE FUCKING UNCALLED FOR NO MATTER HOW RUDE MY POST WAS. LIKE I SAID IN A COMMENT I JUST POSTED, IF THEY ARE REALLY THAT MUCH MORE MATURE THAN ME, THEN THOSE THINGS SHOULD NEVER HAVE BEEN SAID. PERIOD. GO AHEAD TELL ME I'M WRONG. I KNOW YOU WANT TO."

"

I did not personally attack anyone until they attacked me with cuss words, and inappropriate things like "she must wear a strap on". Oh yeah...I'm such a man because I have OPINIONS. At least I don't let my husband walk all over me. At least my husband has enough respect for me to hear my opinion, and at least we have enough respect for each other that we make all the decisions together, mutually. No one ever individually "has the final say". We do it together. THAT'S HOW A MARRIAGE SHOULD BE. An equal partnership. THAT'S ALL I WAS TRYING TO SAY.

NOW FOR CHRIST'S SAKE. THAT DOES NOT MAKE ME INSANE. THAT MAKES YOU INSANE FOR CALLING ME ALL THOSE NAMES, PERSONALLY INSULTING ME AND MY HUSBAND, AND FOR ATTACKING ME BECAUSE I HAVE A FUCKING OPINION.

YES MY OP WAS RUDE. BUT I DID NOT PERSONALLY ATTACK ANY ONE INDIVIDUAL PERSON UNTIL THEY ATTACKED ME FIRST."

I read every one of those posts, and I still say that you have a severe misunderstanding of the topic you are attempting to address, and that you have been very rude and intolerant of anyone who doesn't view things exactly the way you do. Do you really think by repeating yourself over and over again, that you are going to make us all think the same way as you, or that some magical epiphany is going to happen that didn't the first time or two we read these posts you keep repeating on here? I think not. You are doing yourself a disservice by continuing to repeat yourself, and have essentially lost any credibility you may have had.

You may not actually BE crazy, but you're looking more and more like it the longer this thread continues. I think everyone understands good and well where you are coming from, and just because some of us still disagree with what you are saying, and see that you do not understand what you are talking about in most cases, does not make a case for you to repeat yourself over and over.

OP, I think your husband lets you have an opinion because you would cut his fucking throat in the middle of the night if he ever objected. Damn, woman! I agreed with your confession to an extent but your replies are just outrageous. Do you even have a keyboard left after all that furious typing in caps? Damn...

To the OP...

Noone is going to continue to listen to you when you type in all caps, and keep repeating the same thing over and over again. And to be quite honest with you, on this particular post, when I see caps, I don't even read it.

I am standing by my firm belief that you do not need to retaliate with cuss words when someone cusses at you. That makes you no better than the person who attacked you, and I am very sorry you can't seem to understand that. If you had just let it go, or even replied but without the cussing yourself, and the meaness in your posts, this ONE CONFESSION would probably not have over 60 comments.

You keep posting the same things over and over again, and I can tell you that you are not making any better of a case for yourself.

And it's funny that you feel the need to attack people, even on a message board. I am curious to see how you handle conflict in person, and not from behind a computer monitor.

Look, we all have our similarities, and our differences. And you're right that noone should have to answer to anyone. Everyone should be able to go about their business without worrying about what their spouse is going to do. However, that's not how the world runs. Women and men consult each other in a marriage. That's how it's supposed to work. If you can't agree on something then you compromise. The relationships where the man controls EVERYTHING, those may not look healthy from the outside, but they may be the happiest couple on earth, or it could be the worst relationship ever.

All I am trying to say is that you have your opinion, and I have mine. I just wish that the cussing would have never started because this whole thread could have been a really good one, but because someone felt the need to go there, it became very ugly, full of insults and other 5th grade behavior. I am sorry if you were cussed at first, but it doesn't make it right to do it back. It makes you no better than the person who cussed you in the first place.

If you still feel the need to reply to anymore comments, please stop copying and pasting yourself, type new words, and don't put them in all caps, please?

I'd love to hear more from you about your thoughts, but not if you're going to stoop to the level of the people who brought this thread down in the first place.

And if I remember correctly, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results.

Please stop posting the same things over and over.

For 5:02 pm...

WOW, someone is finally willing to listen to my side of things without calling me a cunt. Thank you for that.

My point in posting those things over and over again is that it seemed like people were only focusing on the bad things, when I didn't ONLY say bad things. I actually said some things that made sense, but people didn't want to listen to that. They just wanted to call me a crazy cunt and other various, extremely offensive, and hurtful things.

I realize that my original post was pretty rude. I thought it was just a given though that I did not ACTUALLY mean that people who live that way shouldn't have kids. It was just an expression I used to emphasize how ridiculous I think it is.

To me, it really does seem like a parent/daughter kind of relationship. When I was growing up, I could express my feelings all I wanted, but in the end, what my parents said went.

Marriage shouldn't be like that. I realize that "the bible says so" but the bible says a lot of things. It says we should ahve slaves and kill witches but we don't do that anymore either, do we? So how is it that Christians can pick and choose these things out of the bible to do, when most of it isn't relevant in today's society? The bible also says it's a sin to have sex while you're on your period. There's lots of sins and abominations that Christians do and they think it's ok, but they'll pick and choose one or two things and say that because they do those one or two things that they're "good Christians".

You don't have to follow every single tiny thing in the bible to be a good person or have a good marriage. I think it's dumb to think that way. There are lots of happy couples out there where no one "submits" to anyone. It just seems like all these "submitters" that replied to this post are so freakin' gung ho about it, that they're willing to call people a CUNT and a STRAP-ON WEARING feminist just to get their point across. Those tihngs were completely uncalled for.

I will apologize for not phrasing my original post in a more tasteful manner, but I will not apologize for saying things to the people that said those horrible things to me. I didn't deserve it, and as far as I'm concerned, they had it coming for what they said to me. I was almost in tears I was so hurt. And then people just stopped listening even when I was trying to get my point across in a better way. That's why I was getting so defensive. It's human nature. When you