It wasn't the strain and stress of having to be a single parent for Sharon, the wife of an army pilot and mother of two that tore her marriage apart -- it was the fact that her husband returned from Iraq a "changed man."
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He admitted to me tonight during dinner that he thinks he has PTSD. I told him I was here for him and whatever he needed we would do. He said what am I suppose to do? I think he thinks it will go away. Does it? Will he be able to sort through his thoughts on his own or should I suggest seeing someone? Help me ladies...He's been home from Iraq for 6 weeks. I don't know what to do or say to make him feel better.
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He really needs to talk to someone about that. You can help him by finding the phone number and maybe even setting up an appointment for him. It's hard to ask for help, so if you can maybe help him make that first step, that would probably be the best thing you can do at this point.
I would encourage him to seek help. It's a really good thing that he's talking to you about this. Try to keep your communications open, be supportive, and listen to him. It probably wouldn't hurt for you to see someone as well so you can learn ways to cope.
He should contact his chaplain. Some will tell you that it could affect his career and to keep quiet, tell those people to kiss your ass because his life is more important that the military
I actually discussed this with my therapist tonight regarding my husband. She said that there are medications that can be prescribed to take along with doing therapy and that it helps.
Help him find someone to see and talk with. He's reaching out for help because he doesn't know what to do. He needs more than a "I'm here for you" he doesn't know what to do help him find a way.
Only he can make the choice to go get help. But he really does need to. It won't go away. My ex husband suffered from PTSD and he thought he could "handle it". He was a "tough, brave, man". Well, it took about 3 1/2 months. He ended up spending a few weeks in a mental hospital. It was so sad. Two months after that he ended up cheating on my with my best friend. He made a chain of really horribly decisions. And we divorced. He really does need to get help before it gets any worse.
My current husband and I made an agreement before he deployed. He will start counseling when he returns. I don't want a repeat of the last time.
He needs to talk to someone ASAP, before it starts to effect your marriage. Read up on EMDR, it works wonders.