It isn't sad, and we really don't have the same lives. Our husbands' jobs make our lives quite different in many ways. I mean, sure, everyone deploys at some point, and everyone puts on a uniform every morning. There are even exceptions to that, though. One of my good friends, her husband is a CID agent. He doesn't deploy (he did in his old MOS, but hasn't since reclassing), he doesn't wear a uniform, his hours are weird, and his work has an impact on his family I would not wish on anybody.

My husband is a motor sergeant. He's the same rank as the CID agent and has the same time in service, but my life is a lot different than my friend's. My husband deploys every other year for a year or more. He works long hours when home, but NEVER gets called into work in the middle of the night, and NOBODY tries to get back at me for what he did at work that day. Our lives are 100% different. We're great friends, but not because we live the same lives, just because we like and respect each other as people.

Now, taking this into account, please tell me what I have in common with the Infantry Private's wife next door whose husband is in an entirely different brigade than mine, and who currently has her boyfriend moved into her house. Nothing. Absolutely nothing of any significance whatsoever. (And yes, I think in terms of rank. I am a former soldier, and while rank doesn't define one's personality or value as a human being, it does have an effect on how you live your life. I know this from rising through the ranks myself, and then marrying higher.)

So no, I don't wish to "come together" with my neighbors. Actually, I make a conscious effort not to befriend anyone who lives within a block of me, because if I don't end up liking them, it's awkward if they live too near. I know lots of people who have this same policy, and it works great.

WOW comment 1 all that was just simply silly. I think she meant that in a military community she wishes more people would come together to help each other more and I agree with her. There is far too much catty stuff going on and I think that alot of that stems from so many 17-21 year old wives.

I honestly don't know too many of my neighbors. We mostly hang out with other couples from my husband's shop. IMO, those are pretty much the only ones I need to know. We all get along and have a great time.

When poster 1 said the part about having a falling out with a neighbor, I know exactly what she meant. Our neighbor down the street offered to have my 3 year old play with his 3 year old. When my son was going to bed that night he said "Haydn's dad is going to kick my butt" and I heard him tell a 4 year old that he was babysitting that he was going to punch him in the face for tattling. Screw that guy! He lives on the corner, and he's outside a lot, so we pretty much always see him when we leave and come home. When we have people over, we can see him look down the street, staring at our house. Its so awkward and I wish we never would have met the guy in the first place.

I dont miss living on quarters , base, post etc. I like my own privacy and space and cant stand peeps all over my business. So we just blend in with civilians.

my husbands job doesn't affect who I am friends with sorry 10:39

this is ridiculous

That's like saying civilians need to be friends with everyone on their block because they drive on the same roads.
I certainly SO NOT have the same life as anyone else on my block, or in my housing I don't think.

hey dumb bitch... i think she meant... we go through the same things.... like dealing with the BULL shit the army throws our way everyday after all we give up for it. and Most girls... are friends with wives from their husbands Company or other girls online...

I agree with #1