I feel the worst for my husband. He's 27 and he works with a bunch of 18 and 19 year olds. What misery and stupidity! The hazing, the irresponsibility, the binge drinking, the drugs and the fucking fighting.

I could kill him for joining but I could mostly kill him for going infantry! What a bunch of ignorant xenophobic little punks!

That is definitely true. In high school, I just kind of did my thing and people mostly left me alone. Not the case here.

TRUE TRUE it is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay worse with military wives as oppose to high school.

Some military wives have WAY more time on their hands than most high schoolers. Instead of going to school, working, etc you get the wives who stand outside chain smoking all day and gossipping about every person they can possibly think of. Plus, most of the girls are fresh out of high school anyways and still have that "mean girl" mentality. It's the combination of age, immaturity, and too much free time that does it.

Especially when they pretend to be your friend and all they do is talk trash behind your back-- even the phoenix spouses!

Ooh Xenophobic. Good SAT word 10:40 Sorry, I'm a word nerd. :)

i dont remember hardly any drama in HS, but everday its something new here. its so rediculous.

A-freaking-MEN!!!!

Some women seriously need lives. It's so pathetic.

Where do you all live, Wisteria Ln????

LMAO, amen to that.

I'm with 2:27. There's really not much drama that goes on in my life here. I had wayy more of it in high school.

LOL this was the best thing I've read in a long, replies included. I'm just sitting here laughing because it's so true. I thought high school was drama, Jesus...nothing like the little girls here (some who are much older as well but still act like children). So sad. I can definately see where that stereotype comes from...and we live OFF base!

I was just having this discussion last night for the couple I recently started baby-sitting for. :) I haven't really experienced the drama yet, but I know it's just a matter of time!

This sounds like a damn bumper sticker. I have to disagree with your conclusion, though. I don't understand why people say things like this when it's fairly simple to avoid being around people you don't like,bring drama and have different priorities. In fact, I find the Military has such a wide array of people and personalities, it's pretty simple to find people I have things in common with and enjoy being around and I have no problem avoiding those I don't want to have anything to do with. I guess I'm the only one who has figured out how to avoid unwanted drama in my life by excluding people I don't enjoy being around and know will give me a headache.

oh I don't know. If I had never gotten involved in the online army wife community I would have never known of all this drama! LOL

I just laughed and laughed when I read this!! This couldn't be more true!!!

I've seen WAY more drama in 10 years as a spouse than 4 years of high school! I've just gotten to the point that I try to avoid having mil spouses as friends at all. I REFUSE to even participate in FRG anymore. Sad but true.

There has actually been very little drama in my experience as a military wife. I think it depends on the crowd you run with.

hey... you are what you eat!

At our first base, there was little drama. But, that was because I ended up avoiding spouses after a couple crazy incidents and I only hung out with friends from college, or active-duty personnel. Now that I'm overseas and in the middle of nowhere, it's harder to avoid. Sometimes you just hear stuff even if you are not trying. You meet people and you can decide right away they are full of drama and avoid them, but the thing is you don't really know until you learn the hard way. There are just a lot of psychos over here I guess, it's crazy!

I have no issues with drama with anyone I know PERSONALLY (online or offline)- this web site is the only place I have ever seen drama like this.

Granted, most of my friends are civilians.

I think it's simple. Stay away from those who create drama. Not all military wives are like that, most of us have a life that keeps us too busy to care about the latest bs going around. It's been my experience that most of those that make comments like this or complain about the drama queens are the ones that insist on keeping themselves in the middle of it for the attention. How would you know about it if you were not part of it to begin with?

Where do you people live that you can't avoid it?

I know what you mean.. Drama Drama Drama all the time here. I live next to the biggest drama queen I have EVER met. It's insane, really.

I've been lucky I guess. So far I have not had to deal with the drama that I hear about on these websites. Knock on wood. Now, since moving back to our hometown I have dealt with more drama out of civilians than I ever did in high school. 4:18, I agree with you. Where do you all live? I don't want to go there. ;)

I would normally agree with those who said that drama only comes to those who look for it. I used to really think that. I'm not someone who's ever gone looking for it. I'm a "live and let live" kind of person, and I really don't pay attention to matters which don't directly impact my daily life when it comes to other people.

The problem is that there were people in our FRG who couldn't tolerate that, and did horrible things to me. They spread rumors. They drove by my house at all hours. I ended up having to move because I couldn't take it anymore. With all their rumors, and getting their husbands in on it in Iraq, they nearly destroyed my marriage. I never so much as said an unkind word to any of these people. Some of them, I never even met. That was my first deployment as a wife (I was a soldier first), and it was shocking. I thought it would be like when I was in the Army, and people basically left each other alone, but it wasn't. I guess my unit was just really good because some of the guys in this unit were just as bad as their wives. It was sick. I'm not talking about lower-enlisted and their wives either. Everyone involved was either a senior NCO or the wife of one. To this day, I have no idea why they didn't like me. I was one of them, and I never tried to be anything but helpful. I guess they didn't want that.

The next time I got out there and tried to make friends, once again, I found the wrong people. I'm very trusting, and this comes back to bite me. I WANT to believe that people are good. I'm a good person, and I want to have faith that others are, too. This is my achilles heel. I trust people, and then as soon as the guys deploy, they turn on me. I don't do anything shady. I don't complain to them (after three tours, I'm pretty much all complained out! LOL) I don't tell them to shut up. Yet it seems like every time I turn around, I'm accused of something awful that I didn't do. Most recently, some girl accused me very publicly of flirting with her husband. I've never even met her husband, wouldn't even know him if someone showed me a picture of him. This is the kind of thing I do not understand. Why do people do this? I don't need EVERYONE to like me, but hell, if you don't like me, just don't hang out with me. That's what I do with people I don't like. I avoid them. Others haven't mastered this, apparently.

My husband has been in for over 5 years and until this past year I never encountered the drama. This place is the worst of them all, and then I found this website and it tops everything, lol.

The only way I ever avoided the "chain smoking gossip" was to stay inside and close the blinds or stay gone during the day! I hated living on base, but at the same time I did end up making some long time friends.

They had an excuse for being so immature at least !

Its only dramatic if you allow it..

That's how I feel 7:14, Id rather make friends with ppl from work or off post, and prevent the possibilty of drama. Reason being, like 12:20, you only bring drama in your life if you allow yourself too..why not just avoid it and try to live a happy life, and enjoy your marriage. There's so many more important things to worry about than listening to everyone's buisness. Its their problem, not yours..let them solve it, and just move on!! Fill your time in with focusing on you, not your neighbor. It's just not that hard to do!

I live at an overseas base in the middle of no where too, I think it's harder to avoid it because you have a smaller community and a lot of wives who don't like to go off base. You get to know a lot of people and hear a lot of things, even if you tend to isolate myself. I hate isolating myself because it gets depressing, but at the same time it's the only way to avoid drama. And sometimes it takes time to know who is crazy. I had a friend, it was just the 2 of us that would hang out but it took a couple months to realize what kind of person she really was. So you kinda have to choose - do you isolate yourself and miss out to avoid it, or do you get out there and accept that there's gonna be some bad stuff with the good? Some days it's one, other days it's the other for me. I go in phases I guess...

Thank god my husband is national guard and we live in NYC not some hick ville. So I have never experienced this sort of thing. I could never live on or near a base way too trashy for me!!!

Id give this 100 kudos if I could

i think that the lady who recently babysat for the couple before the 1rst of october should keep her comments to her self about dramma cause she is the most dramatic loud mouth person on my block dont talk bs if you really cant keep your self anonymous !!! you know who you are d....

I can say that I am fresh out of high-school. May of 2008 actually. My husband is in the Army and we live off-post. I've met a few people from his company and then I've also met people in the apartment complex I live in. I have never been so PEACEFUL in my entire life. High-School was a drag for me. Simply because of all the rumors. It was rediculous! Ever since I graduated and moved away, I've been drama free and have YET to see any Army Wife drama.

Wow...this whole thing made me laugh!