we had this problem too, you can ask your husband about his day and all you get is an atitude from him, well what may have happened is when we complain about things to our spouses we tend to critize sometimes( instead of saying I WIsh we spent more time together, we say you rather hang out with your friends than me...and you attack him instead of complain about the problem), well that makes the situation very comtempious (he starts belittling or sacrastic when he talks to you, or even just a yea or an okay to shut you up) and you both get defensive towards each other and eventually can turn to stonewalling where one of you may stop listening all together. Well basically it could be that you both are starting to rewrite your old memories to bad ones(you start remembering all those times he pissed you off when you were dating instead of when he would always bring flowers or was thoughtful), and all your thoughts are more negative than positive with each making you both feel like you are walking on eggshells with each other ( and even sending out vibes of digust or anger) and are always ready for a fight with each other. You need to sit him down and talk to him cause you guys are heading towards divorce if this stays up, I know me and my DH were and well we still might. Things you can do are stuff like being more positive with each other, or you him...like when he jumps on you just smile and say okay...it will lighten the mood (and trust me it is hard at first but gets easier with time) after that try to remember the good times in your relationship that you guy have endured and start with that so you both are looking at each more positively, then talk about your problems but dont' push blame instead just state "we" both dont' talk or WE both get mad at silly things, cause right now anything from not replacing the toliet paper can cause a fight right? well it's not that at all, it's deeper than that, so when he snaps at you be patient and kind and he will calm down right after he snaps...you see he is ready to attack and you need to show him that you aren't there to nag him or attack him. good luck and check otu "The seven principles of making marriages work" by gottman...this is where i learned all of this and there are quizzes in there for you! good luck and I hope i helped some.

could you write it to him? That's what I do when I'm really upset and can't deal with yelling or whatever. He could even write back if he wanted ya know. Usually, I write, he reads, then we talk. good luck girl!