Confessions about Surrogacy: What do you think?

It is amazing to give another family a child. I know it would be too hard for me to do. I admire thoughs women who have done it.

I couldn't have a child grow inside of me and then give that child away to someone else. But I am so very thankful for those women who are strong enough and selfless enough. These women are truely amazing.a

My husband wouldn't let me. He says its against morals...

I really enjoyed being pregnant with my 2 daughters. I would love to do something like this for someone who can't have their own children.

I have been a surrogate mother twice. I delivered twin boys in May of 06' and just delivered a girl in December of 07'.

I love being a surrogate and we are planning our next transfer this fall.

It is not MY BABY to give up. They baby is not any part of me. The baby was conceived with the mothers egg and father sperm. I am just carrying the baby for them.

My first IM (intended mother) had more than half of her uterus cut out by a doctor that did not know what he was doing. Now she will never know the feeling of having a baby grow in her body.

My second IM carried two sets of twins and both were born early and died. Instead of trying again and putting her body and family through the awful lose of another baby. She chose surrogacy.

It is every womans right to be a mother.

I pray that my daughter never has to experience the horrible feeling of infertility. But if she does I can only hope there is some one out there that is selfless enough to help her have a baby.

Both of the families I have worked with are now just like my own family. I visit them often and I love them.

People really need to educate themselves on surrogacy before them look down on it.

Years ago if you would have asked be if I would ever be a surrogate I would have said no way. Because I was a little selfish back then. But now that I am a mother myself and know what great joy I get from being a mother I am more than happy to make than dream come true for someone else.

I just saw "Baby Mama" in theaters last night, and it really made me think about this. I often say to my friends, "I want the baby bump, but not the actual baby" just because my husband and I really have no desire for kids, but I think pregnancy is beautiful. I find no shame in surrogacy, and I'd consider it more seriously if we really needed money. I think its a great thing to give a family a child, and if you choose to do that, you should certainly get compensated for it!

Sarah Smiley here and I had to weigh in on this:

The thing that bothers me most about military wives serving as surrogate mothers is that their medical expenses are covered by all of us....as taxpayers. The military health system, Tricare, made me jump through hoops and basically prove my worthiness in order to have a simple procedure done that was a medical necessity. But they turn a blind eye to covering the expense of a pregnancy and delivery of a child who isn't a military dependent? Something isn't adding up.

The military healthcare system is designed to provide "free" (we pay taxes, too) care for military families in return for their sacrifice to the country. Helping someone earn money (because they are paid, on average, $25,000-35,000) as a surrogate mother doesn't seem like part of the bargain.

I have nothing against surrogacy. But I have a big problem with Uncle Sam footing the bill.

I completely agree with Sarah Smiley. I thought that in most surrogacy situations the biological parents paid for all the medical expenses. Why would someone with a deployed spouse need the money that badly... doesn't he get paid more while he is away?

I can assure you it is not about the money.

And if Tri Care has a problem with paying for the medical bills than they can easily take the part of them covering surrogacy our of the benefits.

TriCare DOES NOT cover anything before I get pregnant(shots, u/s, IVF, fertility dr. etc) Yes, MY insurance covers ME going to the doctor once a month to have my BP, weight and the baby's heartbeat checked.

TriCare covers ME being pregnant. They DO NOT cover the baby. Once the baby is born my IP's pay for the hospital stay and anything that is done to the baby.

Yes, I do expect MY insurance to pay for ME to go the MY doctor.

TriCare and the hospital are well aware that I am a surrogate. I do not try to hide it from them. On my first appointment I go to the socail worker at the hospital and let her know that my pregnancy is a surrogacy.

TriCare and the hospital staff have been nothing but nice to me and my IP's.

If you break down what I get paid, I am getting paid less than $4 per hour to be a surrogate.

Surrogacy is not something you will understand until you do it yourself. Until you hand someone a baby that has been through so much loss you just won't get it.

As far as Uncle Sam paying for my insurance, well I pay the same taxes as all of you. So if you think you are paying for my insurance well I guess when you get pregnant my taxes are paying for you and your baby.

you don't get paid more it all depends where you are overseas for instance if you are only out for underway or what not you get the same pay. If you are at Iraq or Afghan yeah you get paid more because of all the hazard pay and what not, other than that nope you don't get paid more. If I didn't get my tubes tied I would want to be a surrogate mother, because I've seen my cousins go through the heartache of not having a child.

He does get paid more while he is away but the wives tend to spend more to keep busy. A friend of mine buys things for "Family" that need something. It makes her feel good to help out her friends and she tends to eat out more when he is gone. She does this to keep busy. She said she loves being pregnant and after her and her hubby has one more then she will work on giving the few of us that are haveing trouble a child. My hubby and I have been tring for 4 years (well when he is home that is) of course if she carried one for us it would be a military dependent anyways.

First off i have to say that we do not get paid that much in the military, my husband is an air traffic controller and gets a little over 26,000/ year. (where civilians make over 80,000/year) and we pay taxes too just like the rest of you and did i mention that was the salary for always being on call and always working..never really getting vacations???. yes we get medical and housing but still with other bills we still live pay check to pay check at times...but back to the blog I think it's great to be able to give a family a child because it's a great thing and children are such a blessing, we have been trying for a second one and still nothing..so if i could have a baby easily i would defintely love to be able to give another family a child and it wouldn't be for the money it would be to fulfill that families desire to have a child cause having one in my life was the best thing i could ever have happen to me!