Fiance has a family heirloom engagement ring. It's 150+ years old and is worth more that 40K. I am NOT comfortable wearing it. I would rather it was in a bank vault.

fh and I lived together for a year and are planning our wedding. My parents don't approve of our "shacking up". My sister planned my bridal shower and my mother refused to come. None of my relatives, except my sister, were there. ALL of FH's family was there. I felt so embarassed and hurt. I almost feel like not allowing them at my wedding - they're not paying for it.

While planning our wedding, we argued so much that we ended up breaking up.We argued about absolutely everything. Who to invite, who not to invite-he wanted to invite aquaintances from the bar, then he told me I could not invite anyone from my job. He wanted to spend $1500 on an almond table because it was his family's tradtion, but I could only spend $300 on my dress.We could not agree on where to have the ceremony due to being different religions, he said it HAD to be at his place of worship because it would upset his family if it was at mine. I suggested a civil ceremony. He said no.

We are eloping. He told his parents, who told his other family, who told his friends. Now even in the courthouse is going to be full. If i didn't tell them there is a cap, there maybe 50 people going.

Sorry family, but I'm not going to spend tens of thousands of dollars on a wedding that you're all invited to, I just can not find it in myself to pretend that I have that kind of money to spend on a party. I don't care if you think I'm being selfish, if this were some other big purchase that I wasn't buying because I couldn't afford it, you'd tell me I was being sensible!

My family is little. His dad and stepmom's families are little. His mom's side is HUGE. And they ARE ALL CLOSE. I fear the guest list making we'll be doing soon.

From the moment he mention marriage to his parents, his mother took charge. What i imagine is a small modest party, now she wanted to rent a venue and invited every each of his family members. She can do whatever she wants, as long as she pays for it, just tell us where and when to show up.

This is the only place i csn say it--Im getting married in under 10 days--and our families are being introduced to the Adams Family theme song-- me and him die laughing every time :)

My sister and her husband are making plans to buy their second house. Meanwhile, DH and I are having to set back our home-buying plans a few more years since his medical bills (even with insurance!) wiped out all the money we'd been saving for a down payment. I'm tired of being treated as the immature one by my family just because I didn't marry rich.

I'm the poster with over bearing mother in law. I considered her venue suggestion, and I actually really like it, it's a little out of the way but it has good set up and will look lovely in April 2014 when it's autumn (Australia). She decided she'd prefer it if it was in her home town (5 hours from the major city we live in) on her family farm and she wants us to get married in September. I finally snapped and said "well, your party in september at your farm sounds lovely, let me know if you want us to bring anything." Shut her right up, for now any way - I'll probably hear about it again!