The girlfriend of FH's best friend got me a totally inappropriate lingerie outfit as a gift for my shower.Crotchless panties, bra with nipple cut- outs, FM pleather boots. I nearly died when I opened it in front of my entire family. Afterwards she tells me that her boyfriend picked it out because he knew how hot I would look it in. I have no words.

Now we just told my parents, my mom was already on a crazy wedding mode. She already told me about dresses price, ready to book a place and all that crap. She insisted i told her a date, book international flight home, for a wedding she wanted, family i don't recognize, and strangers she knows for show off. Honestly, we can barely pay the attorney for taking care of my visa paperwork. Rather than a wasteful wedding, she can just give it to us so we can put a down payment for a condo or something.

My younger sister is getting married, she has asked her friend and our youngest sister to be her bridal party not me. I love my sisters more than anything and I'd do anything for them I've always known they've been closer to each other than me (they are really close in age I'm 6yrs older) but I didn't realise how much less they care about me. I'm so hurt. I can't say anything, it's her wedding, I'll go to keep my family happy but it does not stop me crying whenever I think about it. I'm a good big sister, why does she care so little for me. My mum is so sad for me too.

I wish I didn't have to invite most of FH's family to the wedding. He's not close to most of them and I don't know half of them. I'd have more fun and like it a lot more if it were just my family and some his family that I like.

If I ever marry again, my 21 yo daughter is going to be my MOH. 13 yo daughter a bridesmaid. I want the ceremony to be private with just parents and witnesses and a party afterwards for all of my friends and family.

Do-over? I'd wish my dysfunctional/toxic family was somewhat close to normal so we could have at least extended an invitation. My parents are so full of drama they got no invitation. I would have loved to have my dad walk me down the aisle with no residual consequences that would have hurt DH and I.

I don't care about my proposal, I don't care about my wedding. I love my fiance and all that other stuff is a formality for my family.

His mom thinks his male relative who got engaged before us, was pressured to be engaged. However every (spoiled) female relatives getting engaged are goddesses of blind proportion who was proposed so many times until they relented. What a chauvinistic pov. Fact is every fiancee of his male friends and relatives were all independent sophisticated women who could do way better and earned more than the guys. It rubbed off on him. In his family eyes I must have tied him to a chair and tortured their beloved perfect son to marry me then. *eye rolls*

Dad was always home, but never really 'there', ya know? Not like Mom. BF knew this and asked Mom for her blessing instead, while Dad was on a family vacation where here fused to take my brother, 11. I think it was the right decision on BFs part and it didn't bother Dad any. He knew Mom's opinion matters more :)

My DH proposed to me at 1am on Christmas Eve. I was so spectacularly drunk that I didn't know what was going on. Even the next morning I had to ask myself if it was real. It was an incredible proposal, witnessed by friends and family in the house I grew up in and videotaped, but I still want to say "damnit, DH, you knew I was going to get smashed, why did you wait so long??"