I don't like those shows where adopted kids or parents who gave up their kids try to find them. I'm adopted and would be very pissed if someone showed up on my doorstep. Who are you to interfere with my life? I have my own family, in-laws included. Maybe it does make me a douche but I've never had any interest in that aspect of my life.

My husband gets E-2 pay. I was working part time but am now on maternity leave. Even with the added expenses of a baby we have money in savings and are able to put a little into a retirement fund each month. We are good with our money, but the truth is that we are where we are financially because our in-laws are very generous. We don't have car payments because they bought us each new vehicles in cash. They bought most of our home furniture, baby items and nursery furniture among other things. Sometimes I feel really guilty about it.

The Army---a great excuse to not visit your in-laws! :) I am so done with those people.

The Army----a great excuse to not visit your in-laws! I am so done with those people.

so i have a sister in-law that breastfeeds....i think its fine till at least 1(hes 15 months) but if your out drinking,partying with ur friends not pumping for ur son & u leave him home with daddy with no milk(& u dont want him drinking cows milk)& everyone knows what ur doing and no one approves....what do u make urself look like?! let alone ur on a 1200 calorie diet drinking body by vi...ya ur loosing weight but do u really think ur son is getting the nutrients he needs?!?!

Here's my life as a military wife: My husband is pretty much a normal guy. My kids are annoy me a 'normal' amount but they are still the best things that ever happened to me. The military is a navigable pain in the ass but it works for us.Our post is ok. My friends are ok. I like my in-laws. Our life is basically huge stretches of boring-normal, interspersed with some difficulty. I wish people would realize that military family does not = thrilling, exciting lives. I get tired of explaining that to my friends. We're just people.

The shit shall hit the fan as we embark on our next journey - I'm fine with it but we are going to the land of the in-laws. Oooh boy. DH doesn't think there will be drama but I know better!

He might get deployed this year and if he does, it'll be last-minute and he won't get to go home and explain it in person to his family. Which means that for the duration of his deployment, I'll get to field questions I can't answer over the Internet or phone until they start getting abusive. I'm dreading the possible deployment for that reason alone. The kid and I will be fine here, away from everyone we know and love. We'll cope. But his family... God, I hate my in-laws.

Dear Monster In-law, when I give you my son for the night like you begged me to do and you tell me "he did well considering how little he actually sees us." It makes me want to punch you. If you weren't so horrible to me you might see him more. Or maybe you could take the time to see us when we are in the area. It isn't my fault that your stupid church shit is more important to you. You were a neglectful mother and you aren't much better as a grandmother.

My husband and I had a huge fight yesterday.Every time he talks with his mom and dad they bring him so far down that he begins to act out. He was yelling so close to my face. I felt so disrespected! I am cutting his parents out of our life! they do more harm then good. He has deep emotional damage caused by them. I sent my father in-law a texted telling them i will make sure he doesn't speak to them. He has children to worry about for God sake!!They never call him. he has to call them. no bdays no holidays..nothing!but yet his mother will make this HUGE deal about her bday. Selfish people. UGH