I lost my temper today with my daughter and ranted like a lunatic. I never go off like this with her younger sister. This one just flips my trigger. Now I feel bad about myself and am beating myself up. Why can't I stop myself before I yell?

Finally after three years, you gave a punishment for the consequences, and stood by it, even through the tears and temper tantrums. Wow, you must have found your inner child whisperer.

I'm all for punishing abusers. I was abused myself as a child, but by abuse I mean, smacked with hard objects, slammed into walls, sexually assaulted, told by my mom that she wished I were dead,etc. Nothing was ever done to my parents. Now everything is called abuse: yelling at a kid, grabbing them in frustration, etc. No child should endure abuse, but come on, kids are not so fragile that yelling is going to crack them. I have graduate degrees, two healthy happy kids, and am a good person. A mom losing her temper once in awhile is not going to destroy a child.

Losing my temper more then usual. Kid spills a drink in his room so I go to the linen closest to grab a towel and the door springs open smacking me in the face. Instead of shrugging it off I punch the door and put a hole through it. Wow, real glorifying moment right there mom.

I fixed my bad temper through a lot of hard work. My 7-year old is brining it back. I hate this.

I beat myself up for my parenting mistakes. Looking at my DD4 and DD5 I can see they turned out great so far (smart, happy, polite) but I am haunted by the times I really lost my temper with them. I yelled or grabbed them etc. I was truly pushed to the brink. I was a SAHM with no one to ever help out, no family around, husband traveling or coming home very late and going through depression. I did my best every single day and gave everything I had, but sometimes I just snapped. I can't forgive myself and I am afraid to talk to anyone.

DH is really starting to piss me off. If he has to do anything that I normally do with the kids (help them with breakfast, take them to school, help with homework) he will scream at them at the top of his lungs. So, DH Just because you CAN intimidate someone, doesn't mean you should. We get it. You can scream really loudly. Is it worth the chance that our kids will grow up and resent the hell out of you so that you can have your little temper tantrums?

That awkward moment when you realize you never brought the gallon of milk and applesauce into your mom's house when dropping off your baby, and that it sat in the back seat of your car in 100 degree temperatures all day long.

I have a bit of a temper. But when I get frustrated with DD3, I've learned to stop, take a deep breath, step away for a minute if necessary, then offer a hug and - if I already yelled - an apology. Then I say 'I started to feel angry, but I took a deep breath and now I feel better! I was frustrated because you weren't listening. Now I want you to listen, got it?" Today DD got mad, then she said 'Time for a deep breath!' then came to get a hug and said sorry and told me why she had felt angry and asked how we could 'fix it'. Wow! Feeling proud of us BOTH! They really do watch and learn, huh?

I have a bit of a temper. But when I get frustrated with DD3, I've learned to stop, take a deep breath, step away for a minute if necessary, then offer a hug and - if I already yelled - an apology. Then I say 'I started to feel angry, but I took a deep breath and now I feel better! I was frustrated because you weren't listening. Now I want you to listen, got it?" Today DD got mad, then she said 'Time for a deep breath!' then came to get a hug and said sorry and told me why she had felt angry and asked how we could 'fix it'. Wow! Feeling proud of us BOTH! They really do watch and learn, huh?