My problem isn't getting a guy to like me, its getting him to stay interested. I'm 44 years old and have never had a relationship last more than a few years, including my marriage. What is wrong with me?? They all start out madly in love eith me then decide after a few years that its just not working.

I stayed in an abusive marriage so I didn't lose my kids due to him having money. When my youngest turned 18 I left to be free from my ex. Well money has bought them and I have lost both of them.

I want to wait until marriage. It doesn't mean much because I'm not a virgin. I've come to grips that I'll probably die alone; no one I know or who has liked me likes the idea of getting married. They don't like love that they can't just walk away from. They say I'm an idiot, but I finally feel respect for myself this way. I don't feel used when I challenge someone to love me rather than just like what I can do in the sack. If that means never being wanted again, so be it.

I recently hung out with a guy who is waiting to have sex until marriage just like I am. It was an awesome experience not to feel any pressure and I felt like I could be myself. I hope we can hang out again.

I'm all signed up for the realities of marriage. I know what I'm getting into and I am fully confident that we are meant to be. But I'm foaming at the mouth for the moment he puts that ring on my finger and I've turned into "that girl"...

I feel bad for women who are my age and say that they thought they'd be married by now. I don't feel that way. I still feel like I'm way too young for marriage (26).

So I just got out of a TOXIC marriage back in the summer. My ex was the ONLY man I had ever had sex with. Once I split up with him finally, I feel for my best friend. He and I waited to have sex for a little bit but when we did it was AMAZING! (Not to mention he is HUGE!) Anyway, we fell in love. Deep love. I'm afraid, yet so happy at the same time.

I had a long marriage until he died; I have an old friend who said he would always love me, but he's married, so that's' out; turned down two marriage proposals; have a man who would have me in a minute and an online friend, who would probably be not the right choice, but he's the one I actually want, and I don't know if that will ever work out.

I always thought I'd do things the "right" way and wait until marriage-but, I lost my virginity last Friday, and you know what? I don't feel a single iota of guilt. Totally worth it :-)

This month's issue of Victoria gave people whose life turned out differently than they planned to tell their story. A woman described how she imagined herself a Carrie Bradshaw writer, traveling the world & meeting exciting people. Life sent her a different way and she marvels that she took "the road less traveled". Since when is marriage-divorce-marriage-kids the road less traveled? LOL