Thing is, I like him so much that I'd be happy being just his friend! I don't want to crash his marriage. I just really like him!

I don't know about you, but my "ghost of a person" has always been there for me. Through love affairs, marriages, and divorces from youth to middle age, from one child to four, from state to state, in good times and bad...ALWAYS! The least I can do is return the favor.

He believes in God, doesn't believe in evolution, wants kids, is addicted to videogames, believes in a proverbial marriage (the whole wives submit to your husbands bullshit.) loves hiking, hates traveling. He's only read 3 books in his life. Two of which I suggested. I am an atheist, evolution believing, child free for life, well read/traveled, feminist, librarian who hates hiking. Why am I so heartbroken over this breakup? We have nothing in common, and most of what he is, used to be a deal breaker for me. I've gone insane.

BF and i were discussing marriage. He said he wants a traditional marriage - meaning he is head of the home making all important decisions. I do all the housework and am primary care for kids. Oh, and i will contribute to finances- meaning i also work full time. Deal breaker!

LOL! Judge Schmudge! My backyard is crispy clean...at least that's what your live in dong says. BTW, there is no such thing as common law marriage in your state. just wanted to give you a heads up, home gurl ;o9

After a long time deactivating my facebook, I just checked and 2 guys whom everyone thought were forever bachelors, got married within a year. LOL. These are the guys who said they don't believe in marriage. I guess it's possible.

I'm so sorry your marriage is ending. I would like to be there for you, but you're just entirely too needy, and I can see that you would try to suck me in to your problems as much as possible. I just can't handle that right now. I'm sorry.

I got into an arguement with a new friend tonight because he thinks families can't be tight and loving just because marriages fall apart. I know so many single parent families that are way more tight and loving than a lot of so-called "in-tact" families. It pissed me off that he dismissed these families as somehow "less than" those with parents that stay together regardless of how well they function as a unit.

5 years of marriage, 3 babies (2 living), 7 family deaths, 3 mental health issues, and countless tears. Finally, I'm free. And I'm not even 30 yet.

I wish someone had told me how much marriage sucked, so I wouldn't have spent my 20's and half my 30's on a desperate hunt to find someone.