Having divorced parents makes planning holiday visits so frickin complicated...no, I can't be 3 places at once!!!

I'm not social either, and I have a holiday party to go to in which the mayor and governor of my state will be there. I'm scared to death.

My husband will get a holiday bonus from his job. (My boss will put a box of chocolates in the break room and call that good enough.) My husband will spend his bonus entirely on himself. It would never occur to him to put it towards something we both might want or could use for the house. He sees it as entirely his 'score.'

My H is addicted to World of Warcraft. I hate the game because it's been such a source of strife between us over our 5 year marriage. I finally asked him to quit today & make his last day Dec 24 so our kids could have their dad back for the holidays. This gives him 2 weeks of playing to get it out of his system. He refused and he promised to quit on Jan 1. He's reneged on his promises to stop so many times in the past I don't know if I can trust him to keep his word. I feel like crap because it feels like the game is more important then me and our kids. How can he choose a game over us????

I could only afford to fly home for one holiday: Christmas or Thanksgiving. I chose Thanksgiving. I will be spending Christmas alone. My menu will be sushi, sparkling apple cider and lemon bars. I will spend the day watching SOA and the Walking Dead. It's not ideal, but I will have a good holiday.

These are my options for the holiday. Go on a day when I can see my cousin who I haven't seen in five years, but at the same time see my mother who I am fighting with. Or go on another day and see the Uncle who strangled and tried to suffocate me when I was a teenager. Decisions, Decisions.

The only complaining I hear about saying "Happy Holidays" are the people who shout about keeping christ in christmas.

There are no such people as the purported ones who get offended at "Merry Christmas" or "Happy Holidays" or if there are, there aren't more than about 10 of them in the whole country. I think those crazies on TV made them up.

I have never met anyone who got offended by "Merry Christmas" or "Happy Holidays". I feel like this has become an argument for the sake of arguing.

DH is a Christian and I'm an Atheist. Neither of us get upset by someone saying Happy Holidays instead of Merry Christmas or vice versa. Someone is just trying to be nice or pleasant. Why can't the gesture just be taken as such? I have Jewish and Muslim friends who don't see why either greeting is offensive.