We both work. We both have our individual chores. I don't ask him to do anything I can do easily and he doesn't ask me to do anything he can do easily. If you are home all day and he works to support you, you can manage, I'm sure. How hard is is it to wash dishes. SAHM is something you signed up for. and unless you live in the Victorian era, I'm pretty sure your Husband didn't order you to stay home. Do the job you agreed to do and that includes housework like it or not.

GAH! Explain this to me: both me and DH work as freelancers from home. He is a programmer and I do translations and transcriptions. I also do the housework, raise the kids, do the shopping, pay the bills, you know the drill. For him it's easy to withdraw and isolate himself so he can work, I have to interrupt myself every so often. How is it that I am bringing money into the household and he isn't? Shouldn't he be making more than me? WHERE IS THAT INCOME, DH???? Fuck.

I had my children young, knowing full well that I would have to do all of the child rearing, housework etc. because men are fucking losers. As a result, I had two children and raised them both alone because not only are men useless, they also LEAVE.

well, for a few years I did half days of school and didn't work while DH worked 8-12 hours a day and a lot of weekends, so I did all the housework. Now the tables are about to turn, and all I have to say is he better pick up the slack around the house and start doing more or I'll be pissed. I'm already mad he pulled this "50-50" bullshit, because for the past few years it has NOT been 50-50. With me at home, it's been morel ike 90-10. He's in for a ruuuude awakening!

I am between jobs. I have depression and it's hard for me to get motivated to do housework; I just want to sit on the couch, watch Netflix, and feel sorry for myself. To try and combat this, H and I came up with a weekly schedule for my "job" of being home. I now have a certain day for every chore that's mine. I know it sounds really weird, but this is day 1 and so far it is really helping me!

I moved with my husband overseas and gave up my career to do so. It is very difficult to find work in my situation but I make every effort to do so. He uses my unemployment to claim I do nothing which isn't true as I do housework and cooking. He has $2K discretionary income a mo. but he won't give me cash to buy groceries and I have to use my savings to pay the few bills I have and for any items I want. I have to nag the hell out of him to get him to buy things we need UNLESS it is something he wants. He wouldn't have a penny in savings if it weren't for my influence. It is 100% HIS money.

We have no income so I can't buy anything for DH. I want to make something, but DH doesn't help with the housework and having him home all the time doubles the amount of cleaning and cooking I need to do. I am run ragged and often don't get to sit down for "me time" until after 11pm. So I'm not very inclined to take that midnight hour to make a present for him.

Ohh honey, your commander is coming for a Health and Welfare check?? You should probably start working on cleaning the house some. I'm done with it. I work just as many hours as you, yet on my time off I'm expected to clean while you fuck off? Nope. I'll be taking some of the money I earned and getting my nails done while they're here. Yeah, I actually told him that today. Felt good :) He's not a bad husband, in fact he's pretty awesome most of the time, hes just totally slack at housework.

I was ready to leave him because of his laziness. Then he got a better job and I could quit work. No longer holding down 40hrs with an hour commute each way completely removed my resentment at the fact that I handle 100% of the housework, as well as scheduling, running, and rearing of sick DS. I'm fine doing all the home stuff if I don't have to do the work stuff. DH better do what he can to keep it this way because no way will I quietly go back to our former life.

On my days off I get all my housework done in about an hour or two first thing in the morning so that I can slack off the rest of the day. But whenever my husband calls I saw I'm vacuuming or folding laundry or something. I can't the idea that he might think I was lazy.